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I'm a Woman Why Can't I Orgasm

A woman's erotic pleasure and ability to orgasm is dependent on the absence of fear which is generally a result to what she experienced before her first consensual sex act, either through innocent play, abuse in all its many forms and or rape. 

Some women accidentally are victims  of their own hand by unintentionally causing their first orgasm, the power of which may include the loss of mental and physical control, leading to a shock to the mind causing the nerve sensors to essentially turn off so that future nerve impulses are read by the mind as pain and stopped immediately.

What occurs in self abuse above is essentially the same as what occurs in physical abuse, sexual abuse and or rape. In many of these cases, the abusers makes perfectly clear to the victim, that the abuse was her fault because "she made me do it." In far too many cases, the abuse generates a traumatic shock to the brain of such magnitude that the brain erases the memory of the event, and treats any further stimulation as pain. This result is commonalty known as "Post Traumatic Shock Disorder" (PTSD).

Some forms of abuse can become addictive and are passed down from family to family, and cause the abused to only seek abusive partners since they equate abuse with love. No matter how the woman arrived at the point where pleasure registered as pain, in most cases, it is reversible provided the fear is addressed before it becomes embedded in her mind. That condition will require professional help.

If you experience pain during sex, can never get enough sex, or find yourself ending sex because you find yourself on the verge of losing control then in some cases, you can self correct the problem by talking it out with your partner to the extent he understands and most of all, you trust him to take care of you, as your first real orgasm can be a very scary ride.

Female orgasms are much more important than the male variety because they release excess energy generated by their hormones to permit them to perform their role of mother, wife and worker, which energy is far greater than that created by the male hormone. Nature provided the female orgasm as a release for unspent energy, much like a pressure cooker.

Failure to release built up pent up energy is not good for woman's mental health as i believe it is principally responsible for addictions to food, alcohol and drugs, ending in depression and or migraines each of which is predominantly a female issue rarely observed in men.

Gentlemen, if you love her, make her trust you as the quality of her life and your relationship depends on putting her needs first. Sport fucking is not a healthy alternative for a woman who can not orgasm.

What Men Know that Women Do Not

Men enjoy one tremendous advantage which woman do not, they know how to cum, and demand their partner address their need first. However, once mans need is addressed, its game set match point, in other words, man is finished. While basking in the glow of his triumph, the thought rarely enters his mind that your pleasure does not match his, and is often heard to day, how great it was, never dreaming, she has no idea what he means.

The creator had a sense of humor  when he created mans penis to grow outward while woman's vagina grew inward. Therefore, it is crystal clear when man mind is totally invested in preparation for sex,  Women on the other hand do not demonstrate such clear visual symbols, and even when they do they still beg the question, how much is she ready. 

Unlike man, each and every woman's preparation is different and can be impacted by so many different outside forces. There is no substitute for knowing your female partner if your intentions are a relationship larger than the moment. Assuming your partner is one of the very few women who have never been abused physically and or mentally, your best guide to her level of preparation is enlarged nipples, clit and significant lubrication. The presence of these signals only means she is ready for intercourse, but not necessary ready for orgasm.

A man who cared about his partner, would invest whatever traditional time was required in whatever means necessary to bring her to orgasm. Orgasm, not being defined by what she say's but by a complete lack of muscle control and uncontrollable body movements. The little additional investment in her pleasure will make a significant difference in your enjoyment as the shyeer view of most womens real orgasm will ignite an almost immediate response in her partner.

Men need to keep in mind, rare is the woman who does not fake her orgasm, one because she knows you do not care as long as you get what you want and two the orgasm might lead to an unintended investment in you, her partner.

 

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Equal Orgasm  Rights for Women

The struggle for equal rights for women in the work place has made significant enhancements to the financial resources of women. While not equal as we speak, its slowly moving along. This historic agenda as great as it was ignored two fundamental issues important to women.

The first, clearly obvious is women are not men, do not think like men even as they reach the identical conclusions as a man.  Too many women got the impression that equal rights for women meant they had to be like men to succeed. Emotionally, far too many women paid a stiff price for that choice as they entered their 40's and suddenly realized, something was missing, children and or a sense of family.

In the bedroom however, perhaps the only real change was women were no longer inclined to fore go sex until marriage, and many have chosen to live with their partners without marriage, Equal rights in the work place seemed to translate into equal rights in the bedroom of did it.

Women process energy differently than do men and therefore need to achieve orgasm on a regular basis to maintain sound emotional health. The energy which women derive from their sex hormones while different than that of a man, is also more intense and measured where family responsibilities are concerned. Men on the other hand while stronger than women tend to not have the endurance which women enjoy over the long haul.

In the bedroom, men seem to believe they are king, and therefore deserve to use their woman and roll over to sleep, with the satisfaction that their women is satisfied because her man is pleased. All women know, that is not true, yet virtually all are afraid to admit that to their partners, for fear of treading on the fragile male ego.

Sexual satisfaction for women is far more complex than man and requires a partner who understands her needs, First of all, female orgasm is complicated by a basket of fears beginning with social religious constructs, bullying and by abuse and or rape  some of which she may not remember due to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), so if your partner wants and desires a healthy sex life, then sex does not begin in the bed room, rather at the kitchen table where fear can be put on the table and understood. 

Sex is all between the ears and if that is not successful, there will be no transmission between her legs other than to make you believe there was. Therefore, understanding any and all issues which might impact her sexual pleasure should be talked about asap. Any woman who tells you sex is painful, or she can not get enough are both signs of hidden issues, most of which can be resolved with patience and trust.

Having reached an understanding of her history, it becomes the responsibility of the male partner to gain her confidence  to a level of trust sufficient to permit her mind to enjoy the erotic experience. Recognizing, this is not always easy to achieve, it is still necessary for both her mental health and the relationship. The male must understand it is his responsibility to  bring her to orgasm, and her pleasure must always come first.  Once she is satisfied his need can be completed in a very short period of time.

Nature created the orgasm in women, not because they were responsible for reproduction, but as a natural mechanism to release the excess energy otherwise unused. To the extent that energy is not discharged frequently, it builds tension sufficient to create a host of mental problems such as over eating drugs alcohol depression and or migraine,. issues that rarely impact men.  

Therefore men, if you care about your partner, treat her first, and women if you care about yourself, insist you get treated first. Men, make certain her orgasm is real and not fake, and women the only person you hurt when you fake an orgasm, is yourself. Finally, men, learn the difference between real and fake. real has a loss of muscle control someplace on her body.

Finally men, we understand you are selfish by nature, but this is one time, when you can actually win by losing as a real orgasm is one of natures real pleasures to enjoy and she will thank you in ways you have yet to experience.

Why Female Orgasms

Matter

The Women’s Rights Movement helped women to make great and important strides in employment, equal pay for equal work and the self image of the importance of being female, a revolution which has not been lost on the next generation of young girls.

While the equal rights movement successfully began a revolution in the structural life of women, it ignored the emotional changes the structural change would make in the mental health of women. Many women concluded success in the work place required women to behave more like men in a complete reversal of woman’s traditional role in family life.

 Many women believed the equal rights movement inferred a sense of equality with men that nature never intended to occur, because the two sexes have completely different emotional and mental health needs. The emotional needs of women differ from those of men as does night differ from day.

The emotional difference can best be observed in the way each sex uses energy. Men tend to have strong bursts of energy, far in excess of the power of woman. Woman on the other hand has measured releases of energy that provide the energy to manage their family obligations each and every day. Men can not match womans sustained release of energy just as woman can not match mans burst of energy release.

The importance of hormone generated energy becomes important in the way such energy is dissipated during the course of each day. Man enjoys many outlets for the daily release of his excess energy. Women on the other hand while needing the identical energy release generally only have two options, exercise or sexual orgasm.

 The problem for women occurs because few have the time at the end of each day to exercise after work and family responsibilities. The female orgasm, natures built in excess energy release valve is stuck in the off position for any number of reasons ranging from male insensitivity demanding his satisfaction while ignoring hers, to her inability to overcome prior sexual abuse leaving her mind frozen in sexual neutral.

Absence of the release of pent up energy in women creates energy over load, a mind she cannot shut off, and a near constant search to find mental peace. The search for mental peace seeks any available source, generally beginning with food graduating to substance abuse before checking into emotional over load, and depression.

To end this spiral of emotional denial, women must take a proactive stance with their partners to give their emotional release equal attention and shun relationships which do not offer equal relationship opportunity. Exercise can work for many women but sex should be mandated to work for all, if equal right for women is to ever achieve its real promise.

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Female Sexual Freedom, Myth or Reality

Why Female Orgasms Matter

The women's liberation movement which began in the 90's challenged the world to give women parity with men in all areas of employment, wages, social status and self image. That revolution, while not perfect has made serious inroads into the world of male domination and control. However as in all revolutions, there are unintended consequences which persist today and which in many respects make what has evolved from the women's liberation movement, more of a problem than a solution.

Initially, women were confused with what exactly being liberated was intended to mean. Many concluded they were both equal to and therefore supposed to behave like men. That of course opened the door to unintended consequence when women tried to emulate men which resulted in some very unpleasant conclusions.  Today, most of those unintended consequences are in the rear view mirror as women settle into their workplace role as women being woman. While not yet perfect, the economic side of women’s liberation is now moving in the right direction.

Unfortunately however, the world of human sexuality was excluded from the women's liberation movement at a time, when the pressures on women in the work place, often in a hostile environment, needed the relief that only a fulfilling sexual relationship could bring. Women arrived at the door of women's liberation with minds subdued by abuse in all its many forms plus the indignity of rape, but those were the lucky ones. Countless others arrived wounded and hurt but thanks to PTSD, induced by sexual violence or abuse had no understanding of the anger that fueled their daily rage.

It is important to understand that an orgasm is totally a mind based function in both males and females. The way the mind releases energy differs in each sex which also impacts how each sex achieves orgasm. Male energy tends to be released in a burst and therefore the male orgasm tends to be rapid and quick. Female energy tends to be released in a steady flow which unlike the male orgasm builds to a point where conscious thought is lost and the mind is left to find its own way back to conscious thought . It is not hard to imagine, how frightening this experience can be, when experienced for the first time. How a woman has her first orgasm will generally define all orgasms which do or do not follow.

Women who have been abused in any way including rape or innocent childhood play can experience blocked nerve pathways from their body to their minds, thus inhibiting their ability to orgasm. Often these same women are defined as being frigid or nymphs. Frigid because their minds have been conditioned to associate sex with pain or nymph’s because sex is pure exercise and has no or limited brain control. A patient and loving partner can usually over time overcome the mental block. The exception to this would be the woman who experienced a physical structural issue due to growths or failure to lubricate.

Today, as in 1990, before the sexual revolution began, women continue to service the sexual requirements of both their male and female partners, without any sexual fulfillment of their own. Males conclude their orgasm, oral or otherwise, is as satisfying for his or her female partner as it was for the man. Rare is the woman who complains, and rare is the man who cares. Women are also their worst enemy, when they fake orgasms leading men to believe they have performed well. Consequently, few men have ever experienced a real orgasm

Women, who show no outward sign of their sexual preparedness find it easy to trick men into believing they had an orgasm when that is rarely the case, by mimicking the actions and sounds men have seen on porno flicks. Anal sex is now the rage but while there are more nerve stimuli in the rectal splinter muscle than the vagina, few women benefit because the male does not take the time to prepare and lubricate his partner.

Men and women process energy differently, men in a burst, women in measured doses often referred to as stamina. The female hormone makes energy available to women to allow them the ability to have children and raise a family. To the extent that energy is not used it remains stored in her mind, until if not released, it begins to find other outlets usually leading to emotional distress, evidenced by depression. The road to non clinical depression is paved with abuse of all kinds, followed by food, liquor and drugs. 

The female orgasm is understood by very few people, male or female, and is generally believed to be related to demanding physical sexual play. In reality, just the reverse is true. The female mind in its fearless state, can orgasm in and of itself, the word fearless being the wild card. With as many as 87% of all women reporting some form of sexual abuse, few abuse free minds remain. Therefore, it is imperative that women demand from their sexual partners whatever is reasonably required for them to achieve orgasm first, not after the male for if the reverse is true then he will have lost all interest

Any new relationship should begin with the understanding, women, before men, but that carries with it the need to help your partner understand your fear and why that fear exists. The male, who is willing to invest the time and effort to understand the emotional needs of his partner will be rewarded with a faithful partner for life. Any person, male or female who refuses to put the needs of their female partner before their own, does not despite what they may say, have your best interest at heart. 

Finally, it appears that the number of same sex relationships between women are on the rise, but the odds are that neither the teacher or the student has ever had an orgasm. That of course begs the question, how can her partner know the difference between acting and reality.

My suspicion is that, based upon how many nerve pathway are not restrained by fear, no two orgasms will ever be the same, but one visible sign is hard to miss and that is the loss of muscle control usually though the lower half of her body or squirting which may or may not be a sign of orgasm because of weakened muscles during child birth.

In addition, the orgasm might also be evidenced by a temporary blackout short loss of vision and or speech, mind based visions of fireworks or stars, inability to speak and uncontrollable tears to name a few. The power of the female orgasm mandates her partner comforts her, hold and continue to talk to her until the orgasm has passed. After the first orgasm is experienced, she will often find the experience frightening but no longer believe she is dying, yet it is and always will be critical that her partner, male or female, continue to comfort her until the moment has passed.

Finally, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) presents an entirely different challenge to her partner. While the woman may know, something is wrong, she will have no idea what is wrong or why. PTSD is a response to fear, of such a magnitude that the erotic mind simply shuts down and closes shop. This woman will never achieve orgasm until that block is removed. The degree of fear required to produce PTSD varies from girl to girl or woman to woman. Patience confidence and time can often remove the block, even in those cases where the trigger event is never remembered.

Man, king of the beasts and the hill is defined by selfishness, some by nature, some by ignorance where it comes to the needs of a woman. Therefore ladies, it is up to you to train your man how to love you and never to let him control that which he does not understand. Your mental well being is at stake, teach it, or lose it.

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At conception, each embryo receives 32 chromosomes from each parent which jointly form her DNA which is the genetic design for who she is both physically and mentally. For most women, that is the singular moment they will ever be the woman they were born to be. From their earliest conscientious moment the minds of little girls are bombarded with someone telling them who they should be, what they should look like, that clothes to wear and why they are no likable or don't fit in with the in crowd..

The verbal and visual assault seems to come from all angles. If she is too smart, she is a show off, but if she is to pretty she is stuck up and on and on. All of this, is layered on top of the child abuse of choice from family friends or strangers, be it verbal, sexual or rape. As if that was not enough, now she is old enough to understand the rigid requirements of social and religious dogma, which is generally inconsistent with who she has been born to be. . The social and religious requirements which she is taught must be obeyed, are almost always not in sync with the birth DNA. A mind which finds itself adverse to social norms is a mind in search for a place to exist where her mind can find piece. For most, that rarely happens. 

Why you might ask, does this issue only impact women, and the answer is simple. Men made the rules on which the social and religious framework of society is constructed. One might ask, why would man create a society that dis empowers woman, and the answer again is simple. Man had then, nor does he now, understand how different are the minds of men and women. The differences can be found in the hormones which serve men and women including how each empowers the other.

Female hormones empower women with great stamina far in excess of that provided to men. Men on the other hand are physically stronger than women but will usually lose when it comes to who can last the longest. These different hormones play out in significantly different ways when it comes to how each sex thinks and feels. Women find erotic stimulation in almost every living thing, some just for admiration, others for erotic excitement. Men, in general, are not invested in such visual mind stimulation beyond an attractive woman.

The erotic dreams, visions, and thoughts of woman run afoul of social and religious dogma designed by men. From this conflict, between what she thinks and what she has been taught, arises the fear that somehow she is possessed by demons. Go into any church on Sunday morning and you will find the ratio of men to women to be greatly out of balance. Men who are in syncs with the rules they made are generally at peace with who they are, so they see no need to seek forgiveness to the extent women do.

Women in the 16th century who dared to exercise their right to mental freedom were branded as witches and burned at the stake. The lesson has not been lost on women over the centuries. Oddly enough, women who talk about everything to their friends, will rarely mention their erotic fantasies for fear they will expose themselves to be crazy. Therefore, they spend their lives in solitude always seeking something to dull the pain of a mind that does not fit. Most seek solitude in alcohol, drugs,or food until finding their way to depression and a course of drugs that dull the pain in their mind. 

Women need to empower themselves to find comfort in who they are because it is the unique difference between one woman to another that defines a sense of beauty that no camera can capture. The beauty of a woman is all about what you can not see, and its in the courage she exhibits to be who she was born to be, especially when her DNA  conflicts with who she has been taught to be. 

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Who Is the Best Lover, Men or Women

The answer to this question lies in understanding what is evidence of the best of sensuality and how can it be measured or observed. While both sexes are capable of similar erotic responses that is seldom the case. Lets examine each to determine the potential of both sexes. There are many misconceptions which impact male female relationships. 

Size is the most misunderstood part of human sexuality experience, for the simple reason that orgasms of both men and woman occur based upon sensual stimulation of the entire body and does not require penal insertion to achieve. Only the brain, can create total body stimulation sufficient to achieve orgasm. Therefore, Size of the male penis is not reverent to a woman sexual pleasure. 

In men fear of sex is rare, in a woman, its more often the rule than the exception as a consequence of one or more of the various kinds of abuse women suffer. The fear which arises from abuse, must be processed by her partner to her comfort zone. Words like frigid and nympho are code names for sexual abuse expressed through pain of sex or the inability to orgasm.

Finding a woman's comfort zone requires a commitment to want to eliminate her fear by establishing trust in her partner as her friend, and having her mind distinguish between the bad and the good guy. Once her comfort zone is achieved, her mind will be receptive to her partners erotic advances provided his movements are slow and deliberate  until it is clear, her mind is totally invested. 

In addition to abuse and rape, the mind of women is bombarded by fashion, childhood bullying, diet, body type, social norms and religion to constantly make her question who she is and if she is sane and frequently leads to depression. Oddly enough, an orgasm is the best medicine to reduce the impact of depression as an orgasm releases the stress and tension produced by excess and unused female hormone. This stress can also be impacted by regular aerobic exercise.

There are many women who are abuse survivors but have no memory of the abuse, only knowing something is wrong and that fear is always her orgasm. While she may never remember what happened, an understanding partner can often bring her emotional peace sufficient to achieve orgasm. 

All women experience sexual fantasies which vary only in type and intensity. These sexual fantasies to the extent they contravene social and religious norms weigh on the mind of all women. Women who discuss everything with their best friends seldom mention their fantasies thereby enforcing the idea that only she is impacted. Fear of fantasies must be a part of the comfort zone process is she is to achieve orgasm. Men on the other hand generally only have one fantasy.

There is one subject in which both men and women seem to agree which is breast size. Women look at the breasts of other women almost as much as does man. Man often chooses his sexual conquests based upon breast size first and  all else second. Women most often are influenced by smell first and thereafter fulfillment of a long standing mental image usually shaped by outside influences including fear, security and goals to name a few of the many. Women like men, seek their vision of their dream partner as they choose who they wish to get to know.

If man is successful in finding his ideal woman getting to know her to the extent of earning her trust, how then does he know, when the moment arrives that she is ready for sex. For her, knowing he is ready only requires her to look down, but how is man to know when she is ready. The answer lies in foreplay in whatever quantity and variety is required to ignite the erotic jets in her mind. There are many ways to determine this moment and all women are different so one size does not fit all. Notice may include any or all of the following, lubrication, increase in breathing, muscle movement, verbal suggestions to name a few. If the minds connect, the orgasms will come together or very close.

Recently, the world has discovered anal sex, and suddenly vaginal sex especially in the under 40 set appears to be running second place. What is interesting about anal sex is that despite the splinter muscle which controls the anal muscle being more sensitive than the vaginal muscles, few woman appear to enjoy anal because man as usual is in a hurry and plunges right in before her muscles get a chance to adjust which rather than creating pleasure, creates pain. So why do women put up with anal, simple, no risk of pregnancy.

So all things considered, the answer to the question is neither is better because man believes woman to be just like him ready at a moments notice and woman seek a partner, who understands what she needs without her having to tell why. 

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Why is Sport Fucking Bad

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While i can site many different reasons, the clear winner is fear, generally induced by a traumatic sexual abuse. The abuse makes her mind miss read the erotic signals from her body to her brain as fear as a direct result of the minds association with rape and or abuse in lieu of the pleasure for which it was intended.

Women produce very large quantities of energy far in excess of that produced by men and that energy to the extent not released through normal daily activities is left to fester awaiting the next fresh energy supply of its release. When this excess built up energy is not released, the mind compensates by causing her to seek comfort in food, alcohol drugs and depression, far too often leading to physical harm.

The orgasm, is natures way of releasing the excess pent up energy. Excess energy can also be release by regular aerobic exercise. Men on the other hand tend to be both selfish and self centered and are always happy once their orgasm occurs. They will frequently ask their partner was that not the best, and she will smile and make him feel like he is king for the day. Man, has absolutely no idea if woman was even turned on or orgasm because frequently the real evidence man misses and would not understand it if he did. He relies on his partner to make him king for the hour.

The women who have concluded that a blow job accomplishes the same mission without any fuss or bother achieve the same end with half the work. However, ignoring what man wants, women need to orgasm. and if by chance were she to meet a true lover, he could understand the process and leave her no choice but to orgasm by taking down her defenses, one at a time until fear is gone and the orgasm comes. 

That first orgasm creates a mental bond between the partners which will never go away which could be either good or bad depending on the intent of the couple. However, that same woman who would work to over come her fear of orgasm, and successfully generated her orgasmic completion by her own hand, will also have ownership of her erotic mind unless she meets one very unusual male.

Enjoy the ride ladies, its your turn to smile and let no man deprive you of that pleasure by virtue of sexual abuse. Orgasm is central to your mental health. Com and enjoy 

Why Women Always Win

Unless they choose to lose in which case, they win

While it is generally understood that men have a physical advantage over the average woman, it is also well known that women while not stronger than men possess greater endurance. A great example, ask a woman to carry 10 lbs of potatoes and she will be exhausted in 5 minutes. Ask the same woman yo carry a 20 lb baby and that she can do that almost all day. Endurance vs strength levels the playing field in sex and certainly not to the advantage of men.

Men begin sex with a number of disadvantages. It is readily apparent when men are sexually excited, they are generally selfish in nature and believe their orgasm is shared by their female partner. Woman on the other hand, give few to no visible signals of their level of sexual excitement, except those which they wish to send and then proceed to give an erotic acting performance worthy of an academy award. 

Women with strong kegal muscles control the timing of their partners orgasm taking him up and down at will until they are satisfied he has had enough at which time they compress his cock forcing him to orgasm. There are however, some men whose physical strength woman can not control in which case the 20lb baby comes into play. They accept all his power for as long as he chooses to use it, until, he either \fades because of exhaustion or she permits him to organize. Women know, or learn that most men, in most sexual encounters, only care about their orgasm, not that of his partner, but she is smart enough to know a quick series of Oh God's will convince him she orgasmed as well.

For men, sex is 90% physical but for women, its just the reverse, 90% mental, which is why rare is the man who has any idea how sexually excited his partner actually may be. The only thing men need to both know and keep in mind is for women you have to seduce her mind, not her body, if you ever desire more than your your own pleasure. The mind of a woman best resembles in sex, the penis of the man.

No woman will perform for any man as long as fear of sex lies in her mind. However, that having been said, men should remember that women will never give you a clue, that you were not the greatest for she know that's what you need, and its a gift  she gives without fear of emotional attachment and without an erotic investment.Given that it is challenging these days to find any woman who has not been sexually abused or raped men should assume that before the sex must come the sense of peace that every woman requires. Her mental foreplay while different than yours is just as necessary for a healthy sexual relationship.

Otherwise men keep thinking "Im the Man" for it exists only in your mind.

There are four different broad kinds of sexual relationships which are as they are generally identified Frigid, Acting,Orgasm and Nympho. Frigid is generally a  consequence of a woman who possesses deep passion which has been compromised by fear induced by either abuse, rape or the of simple fear of the depth of her feelings. This category can also include women whose erotic fantasies conflict with religious and social norms leading them to believe, they are cursed and or doomed to hell.Eliminate her fear by seducing her mind with sufficient comfort and you will find a prize beyond understanding.

Acting is by far the biggest category which describes a woman who simply tells her partner what he or she wants to hear which leaves the partner happy and her unsatisfied either because she chooses not to permit the moment to rise to the level of her mind or she is engaging in sport fucking.

Orgasm is the product of the absence of fear and a sense of comfort with her partner.

Nympho bears a great resemblance to Frigid  as they are flip sides of the same coin. The nympho does not orgasm because fear blocks the synapses to her mind which is generally a product of abuse or rape. Seduce her mind, give her a reason to trust such that you eliminate her fear and again you find a great reward. The nympho is usually like frigid in that they both possess deep passion, locked in fear, and or erotic fantasies that run afoul of social or religious norms.The development of the internet, and the ability to share thoughts and fears, has done a great deal to help women confused by their erotic fantasies because they discover, they are not alone. 

Nature gave to women, the ability to orgasm as a release of their emotional pent up mental energy, the same kind that lets her care for her family and children with what often appears to resemble unlimited energy. Absent that release of pent up energy the pressing mental pressure of the unreleased energy often finds its way to food,alcohol and or substance abuse  finally leading to depression in an attempt to dull the power of their pent up energy. 

Thew standard treatment for depression is medication which dulls the mind. A simpler solution is to seduce her mind and set her mind free to orgasm. Failing that, frequent aerobic exercise can release the pent up energy which is why one often sees women who can exercise with a power of energy men can not match. These women tend to be height and weight proportional and i dare any man to match their workout routines.

Many women who experience fear  or pain during intercourse will remark, i was never abused or raped, so why is intercourse painful for me. For most of those women for whom there is no physical structural issue, the answer is PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. PTSD is seen in women who have suffered  abuse or rape inducing sufficient fear that the mind simply blocks out any conscientious memory of the event, by turning off the nerve synapses from the affected area to the brain, as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, it is those idential nerve synapses which must be switched back on, for the pleasure to replace the pain.  

Hypnosis and finding holes in her memory are often useful. Most children have some memory beginning at age 3, a few earlier, but if her earliest memory is 8 or 9 , and or chunks of time unaccounted for, PTSD is a very good bet. Often but not always, when in a relaxed state of mind, the woman will remember some or all of the event. While it is good to remember, sufficient trust in your partner can achieve the same results. The frequency of PTSD in women who suffer vaginal pain during intercourse based on my experience is far higher than one might imagine, some place in the range of 40 to 60%

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Women have been fooling men forever because it is so easy to do, and two because it puts the female in a much better control position than she would have been had she permitted the sex act to complete to orgasm. Orgasm tends to create an emotional investment in the female mind, so it's woman's way of protecting herself from men only interested in casual sex.

It is a known fact that woman can always tell if a man is fully invested in the sex act by the condition of his penis, but man has no such visual knowledge with respect to the degree of womans physical or mental investment in any prospective sex act. Woman has known forever, that man generally only cares about his sexual release, so they simply go along for the ride until man has finished. Even worse, so complete is the sexual deception that rare is the man who has ever experienced a female orgasm. Knowing this, often women perform oral sex knowing that once finished, the act will be over.

Enter the new world of anal sex which women are all to happy to provide to men as a substitute for vaginal sex, despite the fact that for many, this proves to be uncomfortable. While there are some women who can orgasm from anal sex, most simply play out the string until the male is finished. The woman has pleased the man and risked not only an unwanted pregnancy but due to the absence of a female orgasm, there is no, or limited personal  investment in the relationship with her male partner because most can not orgasm from anal sex given their lack of comfort and or fear in its performance.

In a sense, men deserve this treatment because they are often only interested in casual sex, but is this a healthy relationship for his female partner. I will argue it is healthy to prevent personal investment in a man who has interest only in casual sex, but unhealthy for the woman's mental health because the female orgasm is nature's way of releasing her excess pent up emotions. Failure to release those pent up emotions which are a by product of her hormones, runs the risk of emotional imbalance often leading to food, alcohol, or substance abuse which if not checked causes depression.

One way, some women deal with this balance issue is through frequent aerobic exercise, which accomplishes the needed release but certainly with out as much pleasure were it released sexually with her partner. Many women seek out female partners for this very same reason, but there again the same problem exists if the fear of commitment is greater than the desire to orgasm. Its a balancing act between the need to release and the need to protect, and whatever the choice, its her mind, not her body which will decide if and to whom that mind release is to be permitted. 

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What do the words Nymphomaniac

and Frigid have in Common

Each condition defines opposite ends of the same issue, "fear". A woman who describes herself as Frigid, generaly experiences discomfort and or pain when having vaginal sex. A woman who describes herself as Nymphomaniac is consumed by a constant need for sex, never seeming to get enough. These two sexual conditions are flip sides of the same issue.

To understand why this is so, you must first appreciate that unknown to most, sex is like everything else in the human body, a mind issue, not a physical one. Any traumatic event, has the potential to block nerve pathways from the vagina to the brain, there by preventing orgasm as in Nymphomaniac or by masking pleasure as pain as in Frigid. No matter how the brain is spoofed the result is the same, both are denied sexual fullfillment by their in ability to orgasm.

The nerve block can have many causes but the prime cause is any event the result of which, the mind registers as mental trauma. This event is often abuse in its many forms, and often, when it occurs in early childhood, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) denies the abused, any memory of the event which caused the mental trauma 

The good news is whatever the brain caused to be, can be undone, but only with the aid of professional  counseling and only by counselors who specialize in this area. In cases of PTSD, while it is helpful to remember the trauma, it is often not necessary to remove the mental block.

Women who consider themselves as Frigid, generally do not advertise their sexual disfunction, but many women who consider them selves to be nymphomaniac revel in sharing their condition with anyone who will listen, never realizing, nymphomaniac was a term, invented by men to describe a woman who could not orgasm.

Everything sexual is mind based and therefore subject to any event which creates sufficient trauma to reverse traditional nerve pathways from the body to the brain. Consequently, there are many myths about sex, the most frequent being size matter, which turns out to be true, except its the size of the mind, not the size of any body parts that matter. Given that the mind, is the dominate sexual organ of the body, those who are fortunate enough to never have suffered mental abuse and be conditioned to orgasm on their or others simple request. 

Aerobic Exercise equals

A Strong Body

And Great Mental Health

Certain physiological issues impact the positive mental health of women in a vastly different way than men experience. The two most commons differences between men and women is the fact that women are far more likely to suffer from  migraine headaches and are depression in numbers far in excess of their male counter parts.

Estrogen, the female hormone drives the power of the female mind much as does testosterone in men accept the role of women as care givers and mothers produces an inner mental strength which I believe far exceeds the physical strength of men, as i believe most men have learned over the course of their lives.

The power, provided daily by female hormones if not used finds ways to work its magic in her mind producing needless tension and anxiety which often finds its way to a throbbing pain commonly known as a migraine, or as a sense of isolation and or fear, which often translates into a range of emotions. That excess energy if not burned during the course of the day, can create a mental unbalance which can present itself in many different emotional states, such as the abuse of food, substance, alcohol.

Those issues if unresolved, will  eventually lead to mental issues similar to depression. Mental issues in women are often left untreated due to the stigma attached to mental illness or the reaction to the drugs used to treat depression. Those who do not seek help, suffer in silence never realizing they have become a victim of themselves.

There is h9owever good news, the excess energy arising from a woman's hormones can be self treated without drug the need for drugs.  Nature, which provided the excess energy, also provided a natural cure, something virtually all women can do but fear tends to limit most from enjoying natures cure, better known as an orgasm.

To the surprise of most women, orgasms are mind based and mind driven so to the extent her mind is infected with fear, the easy natural solution is not available. Most people, male and female alike, believe the events leading up to a sexual relationship are purely physical in nature,and therefore often are blocked the a mind not at peace and in fear of herself. My guess is the number of women who have ever experienced a total orgasmic release is not statistically measurable due to the presence of fear the origins of which are many.

However, there is a second method to practice good mental health which is free from fear and almost everyone can enjoy. This solution provides both positive mental and physical health, and is commonly identified as exercise. A consistent aerobic exercise program will burn excess calories which will control the excess energy from both hormones and from calories at the same time. All that is required is achieving a hear rate of 125, 30 minutes a day, 3-5 days a week and the result will be a smoking hot body and a very balanced and stable mind.   Who knows, that combination might prove to be stronger than fear and permit her to enjoy both natures best and exercise.

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Man vs Man

As one who has been an observer in the sexual habits of males and females, ive never paid much attention to the relationships between men only. My attention was how ever peaked by the fact there was seldom any show of affection or passion between the males sex partners. It was earlier this week when realized id always know the answer, just never applied it to male only sexual partners

Most men, are sexually driven by a need to orgasm and are not particularly impacted by how, just that they get their sexual release. Ive joked for years that men would have sex with a hole in the fence, if it would relieve their sexual need, Ive also suggested that the reason women who would not seem to be the most sexually desirable get married and have stable relationships because they understand what men want, a blow job for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Three blow jobs a day, brings the man home after work because the need to release sexual tension, is satisfied. They also know that men's sexual drive tends to decline after age 25 which is about the same time women's sexual drive is in high gear and climbing.

Placing all of the above into my little mind, I concluded that most man on male sex, was all about sexual relief without issues raised by women in their search for the right male partner. In other words, its the relief without after effects, or sex without risk. of either emotional attachment or pregnancy None of what is written here in no way is intended to demean committed relationships between two male partners. Its the only explanation i could draw for the lack of apparent personal or emotional attachment, that the pictures posted on various sites seems to suggest.

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Intellect + Submission + Character + Eroticism = Fear2

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I + S + C + E = F2

Intellect + Submission + Character + Eroticism = Fear2

Many mathematicians believe that everything in the universe can be reduced to a mathematical equation, and as of today, the most complex being in the world, woman, has just been revealed as a mathematical equation. To all, who have said, I cannot understand what a woman wants, now you can make that claim no longer.

Intellect: As a rule, women tend to be more intellectually gifted than their male counterpart, so much so it is often necessary for them to pretend stupidity in order for their male partner to feel important. Many women have devised clever ways to ask their male partner questions which lead to only one conclusion, and that will be the one the male concluded all by himself.

Submission: Most humans of either sex are by birth submissive, meaning the prefer to follow rather than lead, however the male ego often forces the submissive male to make every effort to appear dominant to save face. A small number, of both males and females, are naturally dominant

Character: I believe character does not discriminate by sex however; the male ego tends to disguise male character by the application of their so called macho characteristics. Women also tend to have a much deeper nurturing spirit than do men

Eroticism: The intersections where intellect, submission, abuse and character meet, defines the depth and intensity of her passion. Her depth and intensity of passion is tempered by prior abuse, rape and the application of erotic fantasies to Judea Christian and social norms. Rare is the woman who escapes childhood with her mind free and without fear, in which case, virtually all of the woman is free to love, without fear. This is an issue women generally do not understand and men, are totally clueless.

Fear: From the moment of birth, beginning with her first conscientious thoughts, woman is challenged by the many forms of abuse, social and religious dogma such that she is forced to exist in a state of fear and insecurity. So deep and intensive is this fear that women do not discuss its presence with their closest friends or lovers, despite the fact that this fear controls both her erotic pleasure and her mental health.

Man on the other hand, has no such fear, as that of woman, nor is he aware of the existence of the fear which mans actions or lack thereof, create in the mind of woman. He is also unaware that his abuse of women presents such great pain and suffering both physically and mentally to women and by extension, eventually to him as well. Man believes, women perceive eroticism much as man does and are therefore clueless when mans ego driven sexuality meets miss frigid or miss nymph, both of whom are end products of fear, driven by mans insensitivity to women.