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At conception, each embryo receives 32 chromosomes from each parent which jointly form her DNA which is the genetic design for who she is both physically and mentally. For most women, that is the singular moment they will ever be the woman they were born to be. From their earliest conscientious moment the minds of little girls are bombarded with someone telling them who they should be, what they should look like, that clothes to wear and why they are no likable or don't fit in with the in crowd..

The verbal and visual assault seems to come from all angles. If she is too smart, she is a show off, but if she is to pretty she is stuck up and on and on. All of this, is layered on top of the child abuse of choice from family friends or strangers, be it verbal, sexual or rape. As if that was not enough, now she is old enough to understand the rigid requirements of social and religious dogma, which is generally inconsistent with who she has been born to be. . The social and religious requirements which she is taught must be obeyed, are almost always not in sync with the birth DNA. A mind which finds itself adverse to social norms is a mind in search for a place to exist where her mind can find piece. For most, that rarely happens. 

Why you might ask, does this issue only impact women, and the answer is simple. Men made the rules on which the social and religious framework of society is constructed. One might ask, why would man create a society that dis empowers woman, and the answer again is simple. Man had then, nor does he now, understand how different are the minds of men and women. The differences can be found in the hormones which serve men and women including how each empowers the other.

Female hormones empower women with great stamina far in excess of that provided to men. Men on the other hand are physically stronger than women but will usually lose when it comes to who can last the longest. These different hormones play out in significantly different ways when it comes to how each sex thinks and feels. Women find erotic stimulation in almost every living thing, some just for admiration, others for erotic excitement. Men, in general, are not invested in such visual mind stimulation beyond an attractive woman.

The erotic dreams, visions, and thoughts of woman run afoul of social and religious dogma designed by men. From this conflict, between what she thinks and what she has been taught, arises the fear that somehow she is possessed by demons. Go into any church on Sunday morning and you will find the ratio of men to women to be greatly out of balance. Men who are in syncs with the rules they made are generally at peace with who they are, so they see no need to seek forgiveness to the extent women do.

Women in the 16th century who dared to exercise their right to mental freedom were branded as witches and burned at the stake. The lesson has not been lost on women over the centuries. Oddly enough, women who talk about everything to their friends, will rarely mention their erotic fantasies for fear they will expose themselves to be crazy. Therefore, they spend their lives in solitude always seeking something to dull the pain of a mind that does not fit. Most seek solitude in alcohol, drugs,or food until finding their way to depression and a course of drugs that dull the pain in their mind. 

Women need to empower themselves to find comfort in who they are because it is the unique difference between one woman to another that defines a sense of beauty that no camera can capture. The beauty of a woman is all about what you can not see, and its in the courage she exhibits to be who she was born to be, especially when her DNA  conflicts with who she has been taught to be. 

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Who Is the Best Lover, Men or Women

The answer to this question lies in understanding what is evidence of the best of sensuality and how can it be measured or observed. While both sexes are capable of similar erotic responses that is seldom the case. Lets examine each to determine the potential of both sexes. There are many misconceptions which impact male female relationships. 

Size is the most misunderstood part of human sexuality experience, for the simple reason that orgasms of both men and woman occur based upon sensual stimulation of the entire body and does not require penal insertion to achieve. Only the brain, can create total body stimulation sufficient to achieve orgasm. Therefore, Size of the male penis is not reverent to a woman sexual pleasure. 

In men fear of sex is rare, in a woman, its more often the rule than the exception as a consequence of one or more of the various kinds of abuse women suffer. The fear which arises from abuse, must be processed by her partner to her comfort zone. Words like frigid and nympho are code names for sexual abuse expressed through pain of sex or the inability to orgasm.

Finding a woman's comfort zone requires a commitment to want to eliminate her fear by establishing trust in her partner as her friend, and having her mind distinguish between the bad and the good guy. Once her comfort zone is achieved, her mind will be receptive to her partners erotic advances provided his movements are slow and deliberate  until it is clear, her mind is totally invested. 

In addition to abuse and rape, the mind of women is bombarded by fashion, childhood bullying, diet, body type, social norms and religion to constantly make her question who she is and if she is sane and frequently leads to depression. Oddly enough, an orgasm is the best medicine to reduce the impact of depression as an orgasm releases the stress and tension produced by excess and unused female hormone. This stress can also be impacted by regular aerobic exercise.

There are many women who are abuse survivors but have no memory of the abuse, only knowing something is wrong and that fear is always her orgasm. While she may never remember what happened, an understanding partner can often bring her emotional peace sufficient to achieve orgasm. 

All women experience sexual fantasies which vary only in type and intensity. These sexual fantasies to the extent they contravene social and religious norms weigh on the mind of all women. Women who discuss everything with their best friends seldom mention their fantasies thereby enforcing the idea that only she is impacted. Fear of fantasies must be a part of the comfort zone process is she is to achieve orgasm. Men on the other hand generally only have one fantasy.

There is one subject in which both men and women seem to agree which is breast size. Women look at the breasts of other women almost as much as does man. Man often chooses his sexual conquests based upon breast size first and  all else second. Women most often are influenced by smell first and thereafter fulfillment of a long standing mental image usually shaped by outside influences including fear, security and goals to name a few of the many. Women like men, seek their vision of their dream partner as they choose who they wish to get to know.

If man is successful in finding his ideal woman getting to know her to the extent of earning her trust, how then does he know, when the moment arrives that she is ready for sex. For her, knowing he is ready only requires her to look down, but how is man to know when she is ready. The answer lies in foreplay in whatever quantity and variety is required to ignite the erotic jets in her mind. There are many ways to determine this moment and all women are different so one size does not fit all. Notice may include any or all of the following, lubrication, increase in breathing, muscle movement, verbal suggestions to name a few. If the minds connect, the orgasms will come together or very close.

Recently, the world has discovered anal sex, and suddenly vaginal sex especially in the under 40 set appears to be running second place. What is interesting about anal sex is that despite the splinter muscle which controls the anal muscle being more sensitive than the vaginal muscles, few woman appear to enjoy anal because man as usual is in a hurry and plunges right in before her muscles get a chance to adjust which rather than creating pleasure, creates pain. So why do women put up with anal, simple, no risk of pregnancy.

So all things considered, the answer to the question is neither is better because man believes woman to be just like him ready at a moments notice and woman seek a partner, who understands what she needs without her having to tell why. 

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Why is Sport Fucking Bad

for Many Women

While i can site many different reasons, the clear winner is fear, generally induced by a traumatic sexual abuse. The abuse makes her mind miss read the erotic signals from her body to her brain as fear as a direct result of the minds association with rape and or abuse in lieu of the pleasure for which it was intended.

Women produce very large quantities of energy far in excess of that produced by men and that energy to the extent not released through normal daily activities is left to fester awaiting the next fresh energy supply of its release. When this excess built up energy is not released, the mind compensates by causing her to seek comfort in food, alcohol drugs and depression, far too often leading to physical harm.

The orgasm, is natures way of releasing the excess pent up energy. Excess energy can also be release by regular aerobic exercise. Men on the other hand tend to be both selfish and self centered and are always happy once their orgasm occurs. They will frequently ask their partner was that not the best, and she will smile and make him feel like he is king for the day. Man, has absolutely no idea if woman was even turned on or orgasm because frequently the real evidence man misses and would not understand it if he did. He relies on his partner to make him king for the hour.

The women who have concluded that a blow job accomplishes the same mission without any fuss or bother achieve the same end with half the work. However, ignoring what man wants, women need to orgasm. and if by chance were she to meet a true lover, he could understand the process and leave her no choice but to orgasm by taking down her defenses, one at a time until fear is gone and the orgasm comes. 

That first orgasm creates a mental bond between the partners which will never go away which could be either good or bad depending on the intent of the couple. However, that same woman who would work to over come her fear of orgasm, and successfully generated her orgasmic completion by her own hand, will also have ownership of her erotic mind unless she meets one very unusual male.

Enjoy the ride ladies, its your turn to smile and let no man deprive you of that pleasure by virtue of sexual abuse. Orgasm is central to your mental health. Com and enjoy 

Why Women Always Win

Unless they choose to lose in which case, they win

While it is generally understood that men have a physical advantage over the average woman, it is also well known that women while not stronger than men possess greater endurance. A great example, ask a woman to carry 10 lbs of potatoes and she will be exhausted in 5 minutes. Ask the same woman yo carry a 20 lb baby and that she can do that almost all day. Endurance vs strength levels the playing field in sex and certainly not to the advantage of men.

Men begin sex with a number of disadvantages. It is readily apparent when men are sexually excited, they are generally selfish in nature and believe their orgasm is shared by their female partner. Woman on the other hand, give few to no visible signals of their level of sexual excitement, except those which they wish to send and then proceed to give an erotic acting performance worthy of an academy award. 

Women with strong kegal muscles control the timing of their partners orgasm taking him up and down at will until they are satisfied he has had enough at which time they compress his cock forcing him to orgasm. There are however, some men whose physical strength woman can not control in which case the 20lb baby comes into play. They accept all his power for as long as he chooses to use it, until, he either \fades because of exhaustion or she permits him to organize. Women know, or learn that most men, in most sexual encounters, only care about their orgasm, not that of his partner, but she is smart enough to know a quick series of Oh God's will convince him she orgasmed as well.

For men, sex is 90% physical but for women, its just the reverse, 90% mental, which is why rare is the man who has any idea how sexually excited his partner actually may be. The only thing men need to both know and keep in mind is for women you have to seduce her mind, not her body, if you ever desire more than your your own pleasure. The mind of a woman best resembles in sex, the penis of the man.

No woman will perform for any man as long as fear of sex lies in her mind. However, that having been said, men should remember that women will never give you a clue, that you were not the greatest for she know that's what you need, and its a gift  she gives without fear of emotional attachment and without an erotic investment.Given that it is challenging these days to find any woman who has not been sexually abused or raped men should assume that before the sex must come the sense of peace that every woman requires. Her mental foreplay while different than yours is just as necessary for a healthy sexual relationship.

Otherwise men keep thinking "Im the Man" for it exists only in your mind.

There are four different broad kinds of sexual relationships which are as they are generally identified Frigid, Acting,Orgasm and Nympho. Frigid is generally a  consequence of a woman who possesses deep passion which has been compromised by fear induced by either abuse, rape or the of simple fear of the depth of her feelings. This category can also include women whose erotic fantasies conflict with religious and social norms leading them to believe, they are cursed and or doomed to hell.Eliminate her fear by seducing her mind with sufficient comfort and you will find a prize beyond understanding.

Acting is by far the biggest category which describes a woman who simply tells her partner what he or she wants to hear which leaves the partner happy and her unsatisfied either because she chooses not to permit the moment to rise to the level of her mind or she is engaging in sport fucking.

Orgasm is the product of the absence of fear and a sense of comfort with her partner.

Nympho bears a great resemblance to Frigid  as they are flip sides of the same coin. The nympho does not orgasm because fear blocks the synapses to her mind which is generally a product of abuse or rape. Seduce her mind, give her a reason to trust such that you eliminate her fear and again you find a great reward. The nympho is usually like frigid in that they both possess deep passion, locked in fear, and or erotic fantasies that run afoul of social or religious norms.The development of the internet, and the ability to share thoughts and fears, has done a great deal to help women confused by their erotic fantasies because they discover, they are not alone. 

Nature gave to women, the ability to orgasm as a release of their emotional pent up mental energy, the same kind that lets her care for her family and children with what often appears to resemble unlimited energy. Absent that release of pent up energy the pressing mental pressure of the unreleased energy often finds its way to food,alcohol and or substance abuse  finally leading to depression in an attempt to dull the power of their pent up energy. 

Thew standard treatment for depression is medication which dulls the mind. A simpler solution is to seduce her mind and set her mind free to orgasm. Failing that, frequent aerobic exercise can release the pent up energy which is why one often sees women who can exercise with a power of energy men can not match. These women tend to be height and weight proportional and i dare any man to match their workout routines.

Many women who experience fear  or pain during intercourse will remark, i was never abused or raped, so why is intercourse painful for me. For most of those women for whom there is no physical structural issue, the answer is PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. PTSD is seen in women who have suffered  abuse or rape inducing sufficient fear that the mind simply blocks out any conscientious memory of the event, by turning off the nerve synapses from the affected area to the brain, as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, it is those idential nerve synapses which must be switched back on, for the pleasure to replace the pain.  

Hypnosis and finding holes in her memory are often useful. Most children have some memory beginning at age 3, a few earlier, but if her earliest memory is 8 or 9 , and or chunks of time unaccounted for, PTSD is a very good bet. Often but not always, when in a relaxed state of mind, the woman will remember some or all of the event. While it is good to remember, sufficient trust in your partner can achieve the same results. The frequency of PTSD in women who suffer vaginal pain during intercourse based on my experience is far higher than one might imagine, some place in the range of 40 to 60%

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Women have been fooling men forever because it is so easy to do, and two because it puts the female in a much better control position than she would have been had she permitted the sex act to complete to orgasm. Orgasm tends to create an emotional investment in the female mind, so it's woman's way of protecting herself from men only interested in casual sex.

It is a known fact that woman can always tell if a man is fully invested in the sex act by the condition of his penis, but man has no such visual knowledge with respect to the degree of womans physical or mental investment in any prospective sex act. Woman has known forever, that man generally only cares about his sexual release, so they simply go along for the ride until man has finished. Even worse, so complete is the sexual deception that rare is the man who has ever experienced a female orgasm. Knowing this, often women perform oral sex knowing that once finished, the act will be over.

Enter the new world of anal sex which women are all to happy to provide to men as a substitute for vaginal sex, despite the fact that for many, this proves to be uncomfortable. While there are some women who can orgasm from anal sex, most simply play out the string until the male is finished. The woman has pleased the man and risked not only an unwanted pregnancy but due to the absence of a female orgasm, there is no, or limited personal  investment in the relationship with her male partner because most can not orgasm from anal sex given their lack of comfort and or fear in its performance.

In a sense, men deserve this treatment because they are often only interested in casual sex, but is this a healthy relationship for his female partner. I will argue it is healthy to prevent personal investment in a man who has interest only in casual sex, but unhealthy for the woman's mental health because the female orgasm is nature's way of releasing her excess pent up emotions. Failure to release those pent up emotions which are a by product of her hormones, runs the risk of emotional imbalance often leading to food, alcohol, or substance abuse which if not checked causes depression.

One way, some women deal with this balance issue is through frequent aerobic exercise, which accomplishes the needed release but certainly with out as much pleasure were it released sexually with her partner. Many women seek out female partners for this very same reason, but there again the same problem exists if the fear of commitment is greater than the desire to orgasm. Its a balancing act between the need to release and the need to protect, and whatever the choice, its her mind, not her body which will decide if and to whom that mind release is to be permitted. 

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What do the words Nymphomaniac

and Frigid have in Common

Each condition defines opposite ends of the same issue, "fear". A woman who describes herself as Frigid, generaly experiences discomfort and or pain when having vaginal sex. A woman who describes herself as Nymphomaniac is consumed by a constant need for sex, never seeming to get enough. These two sexual conditions are flip sides of the same issue.

To understand why this is so, you must first appreciate that unknown to most, sex is like everything else in the human body, a mind issue, not a physical one. Any traumatic event, has the potential to block nerve pathways from the vagina to the brain, there by preventing orgasm as in Nymphomaniac or by masking pleasure as pain as in Frigid. No matter how the brain is spoofed the result is the same, both are denied sexual fullfillment by their in ability to orgasm.

The nerve block can have many causes but the prime cause is any event the result of which, the mind registers as mental trauma. This event is often abuse in its many forms, and often, when it occurs in early childhood, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) denies the abused, any memory of the event which caused the mental trauma 

The good news is whatever the brain caused to be, can be undone, but only with the aid of professional  counseling and only by counselors who specialize in this area. In cases of PTSD, while it is helpful to remember the trauma, it is often not necessary to remove the mental block.

Women who consider themselves as Frigid, generally do not advertise their sexual disfunction, but many women who consider them selves to be nymphomaniac revel in sharing their condition with anyone who will listen, never realizing, nymphomaniac was a term, invented by men to describe a woman who could not orgasm.

Everything sexual is mind based and therefore subject to any event which creates sufficient trauma to reverse traditional nerve pathways from the body to the brain. Consequently, there are many myths about sex, the most frequent being size matter, which turns out to be true, except its the size of the mind, not the size of any body parts that matter. Given that the mind, is the dominate sexual organ of the body, those who are fortunate enough to never have suffered mental abuse and be conditioned to orgasm on their or others simple request. 

Aerobic Exercise equals

A Strong Body

And Great Mental Health

Certain physiological issues impact the positive mental health of women in a vastly different way than men experience. The two most commons differences between men and women is the fact that women are far more likely to suffer from  migraine headaches and are depression in numbers far in excess of their male counter parts.

Estrogen, the female hormone drives the power of the female mind much as does testosterone in men accept the role of women as care givers and mothers produces an inner mental strength which I believe far exceeds the physical strength of men, as i believe most men have learned over the course of their lives.

The power, provided daily by female hormones if not used finds ways to work its magic in her mind producing needless tension and anxiety which often finds its way to a throbbing pain commonly known as a migraine, or as a sense of isolation and or fear, which often translates into a range of emotions. That excess energy if not burned during the course of the day, can create a mental unbalance which can present itself in many different emotional states, such as the abuse of food, substance, alcohol.

Those issues if unresolved, will  eventually lead to mental issues similar to depression. Mental issues in women are often left untreated due to the stigma attached to mental illness or the reaction to the drugs used to treat depression. Those who do not seek help, suffer in silence never realizing they have become a victim of themselves.

There is h9owever good news, the excess energy arising from a woman's hormones can be self treated without drug the need for drugs.  Nature, which provided the excess energy, also provided a natural cure, something virtually all women can do but fear tends to limit most from enjoying natures cure, better known as an orgasm.

To the surprise of most women, orgasms are mind based and mind driven so to the extent her mind is infected with fear, the easy natural solution is not available. Most people, male and female alike, believe the events leading up to a sexual relationship are purely physical in nature,and therefore often are blocked the a mind not at peace and in fear of herself. My guess is the number of women who have ever experienced a total orgasmic release is not statistically measurable due to the presence of fear the origins of which are many.

However, there is a second method to practice good mental health which is free from fear and almost everyone can enjoy. This solution provides both positive mental and physical health, and is commonly identified as exercise. A consistent aerobic exercise program will burn excess calories which will control the excess energy from both hormones and from calories at the same time. All that is required is achieving a hear rate of 125, 30 minutes a day, 3-5 days a week and the result will be a smoking hot body and a very balanced and stable mind.   Who knows, that combination might prove to be stronger than fear and permit her to enjoy both natures best and exercise.

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