Female sex without satisfaction

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Why do women, submit to sex without completion and in silence. Simple, because their failure to achieve a total release is to them a mark of a personal issue, and they suffer in silence all their erotic life believing that their feeling of a greater need means something is wrong with them. Seldom does it enter their mind that it is their partner who due to a lack of understanding of their need or simple selfishness, has no idea that his partner is not happy because he had an orgasm. The male usually believes that once he cums, the woman is then satisfied.

Erotic silence on the part of the female, makes her, her own worst enemy. learn to talk and to sharte your needs with your partner and if he has an issue with your needs, find a new partner who is will to address your real needs. never ever be embarrassed to discuss what you need.

Domination & Submission, What does it really mean

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Two central themes are at the heart of d/s, the first being the need for control and the second , the sense of belonging when one feels out of step with what is so called "Normal". After that, there are as many variations of d/s as grains of sand on the beach, so the essence of any prospective submissive person is to identify Masters whose interests match their real needs.

This Masters sense of d/s is intellectually based, and requires total mind control, a fierce desire to please others, and an unselfish commitment to giving, without expectation of return. However, for this to be successful, trust must first be established and all fear in the mind of the slave released. The degree of success of the master slave relationship are directly dependant upon the success of the trust/fear solution.

Desire and control tend to be relatively simple to achieve, however, unselfish giving proves to be the stumbling bock for many who are seeking a kind of love that requires that they be given too, in exchange for the giving.

The pure definition of real love, is the ability to give without expectation of return. That definition is valid for all life styles. However, selfishness, taught from the cradle to the grave is responsible for most unsuccessful relations. Selfishness, is a by product of absence of trust which is generally absent in vanilla but is supposed to be the corner stone of d/s. That however is rare in both vanilla and d/s, but those of us who are purest, always strive to get the very best and unselfish giving is as good as it gets.

Are Women more Submissive than Men

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Actually, most people like to be controlled, reference the number of organized groups for both men and women. I believe both sex's need control equally, but women tend to be more honest about their need for control than men. Women are often compromised by their passion to seek control while men are embarrassed by their need to be macho to admit what they need. In the hands of the right master, either sex can be essentially gender neutral

Who Needs Sex More, Men or Women

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For men, sex is recreational playtime which is why men can be so indiscriminate in their choice of partners and their slam bamg thank u mame approach to sex. Women on the other hand are captives to their sexuality for that experessed as passion guides their every action and colors their every thought. Therefore, sexual tension, to some extent, is always present and always seeking release insome form or another. Unfortunately, fear, learned from birth ofter color and restricts a womans ability to absorb all of her passion into all the diciplines of her life. Consequently, learning how to control passion for use in her total lifes work, is therefore vital to a woman and her suxuality therefore becomes far more important to her than that ofa man. Whie women need sexual activity on many different levels, it is rare that that is achieved sine women are reluctant to discuss their real erotic needs for fear of being labeled by men and men most of the time, simply have no interest thinkg women need be more liek them :-))

The sad truth however is that while women need sex more than men, they get far less than men becuause of the many social conventions which control thier mind and create fear to simply be who they are, not what they were made to be.

Then What is Abnormal

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Abnormal, is the a state of existance when one has denied being their natural self, in order to conform to anothers so called idea of a normal state. Since there is no such thing as a normal state, outside of ones own existance, any beings who is existing using standards set by another is said to be in an abnormal state. This will of course include all people who conform to social order groups like religion, clubs, lifestyles, etc where normal is a defined or understood term. even the entire argument about abortion is fundemantally about control of woman, no matter which side fo the discussion you find yourself leaning on.

Thed Myth of "Normal"

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For as long as you have been alive, the word "Normal" as been consistently applied to individuals in an attempt to define social norms ignoring in total the diversity and individualism of each individual. No two people, male or female are alike, therefore the application of the concept of normal when applied to people, is an attempt to impose symmetry on to an asymmetric being. The concept of normal is another element of control used by individuals or groups to impose their concept of self unto a larger population.

The imposition of the concept of Normal has caused irreparable harm to millions, primarily women, as men tend to ignore established norms to a greater extent than do women. As a result, many women have spent the entirety of their lives trying to fit their diversity into the "Normal" expectations of self which society has embraced mostly through organized groups vying for control of the mind of women.

This is most clearly seen in female eroticism, where each female mind responds to different erotic stimuli, yet all erotic rresponses that are not considered "Normal" are therefore thought to be abnormal and therefore, must be suppressed so as to fit into the concept of normal. This suppression of erotic need and diversity, ultimately leads to depression, excess weight, alcohol and drug abuse, as the woman struggles to fit her sexual identity into the normal funnel. Many, who can not balance their personal need with the concept of Normal, turn to religion as a way top purify their erotic need, since in many cases, it is religion that defines what normal is and is not. The usually tends to compound the problem.

The concept of normal as it applies to women in particular, was an outgrowth, not of religion, but of man, in his attempt to control women, who man discovered early on were by far the stronger sex but have one tiny weakness, the were easy to scare. Since man did not possess the capacity to understand woman, and the variety of erotic needs she possessed, he created normal to simplify his understanding so he could make all women essentially the same, and for those who refused to be scared, he created labels such as whore, nymphomaniac, etc to redefine their relationship to the male established norm.

Perhaps one of the cruel examples of mans need to control women can be seen in certain religions where the clitoris of the female is cut off, thus depriving the woman of physical sexual pleasure without any similar such deprivation for men. It is a very good thing man does not know that the seat of eroticism is mental, not physical, for then, they might try to remove the mind of the woman as well

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