Intellect + Submission + Character + Eroticism = Fear2

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I + S + C + E = F2

Intellect + Submission + Character + Eroticism = Fear2

Many mathematicians believe that everything in the universe can be reduced to a mathematical equation, and as of today, the most complex being in the world, woman, has just been revealed as a mathematical equation. To all, who have said, I cannot understand what a woman wants, now you can make that claim no longer.

Intellect: As a rule, women tend to be more intellectually gifted than their male counterpart, so much so it is often necessary for them to pretend stupidity in order for their male partner to feel important. Many women have devised clever ways to ask their male partner questions which lead to only one conclusion, and that will be the one the male concluded all by himself.

Submission: Most humans of either sex are by birth submissive, meaning the prefer to follow rather than lead, however the male ego often forces the submissive male to make every effort to appear dominant to save face. A small number, of both males and females, are naturally dominant

Character: I believe character does not discriminate by sex however; the male ego tends to disguise male character by the application of their so called macho characteristics. Women also tend to have a much deeper nurturing spirit than do men

Eroticism: The intersections where intellect, submission, abuse and character meet, defines the depth and intensity of her passion. Her depth and intensity of passion is tempered by prior abuse, rape and the application of erotic fantasies to Judea Christian and social norms. Rare is the woman who escapes childhood with her mind free and without fear, in which case, virtually all of the woman is free to love, without fear. This is an issue women generally do not understand and men, are totally clueless.

Fear: From the moment of birth, beginning with her first conscientious thoughts, woman is challenged by the many forms of abuse, social and religious dogma such that she is forced to exist in a state of fear and insecurity. So deep and intensive is this fear that women do not discuss its presence with their closest friends or lovers, despite the fact that this fear controls both her erotic pleasure and her mental health.

Man on the other hand, has no such fear, as that of woman, nor is he aware of the existence of the fear which mans actions or lack thereof, create in the mind of woman. He is also unaware that his abuse of women presents such great pain and suffering both physically and mentally to women and by extension, eventually to him as well. Man believes, women perceive eroticism much as man does and are therefore clueless when mans ego driven sexuality meets miss frigid or miss nymph, both of whom are end products of fear, driven by mans insensitivity to women.

Blow Job vs Sex, Which is the Winner and Why

How Oral & Anal Sex, A long Term Game Changer 

Sex, much like life, is constantly evolving to keep pace with our international jet age world, but are all the changes healthy or just a sign of the times. Historically, sex between two partners used to mean vaginal intercourse with occasional hand assistance to get the male partner ready. Oral sex was the exception, and seldom the rule between partners. Partners tended to stay partners and the concept of sport fucking was not yet a common term.

The 60's ushered in the beginning of a sexual revolution, the long term consequences of which no one could have ever imagined and which changed the sexual dynamic between sexual partners. Sex became entertainment as much as sex was formally used for procreation. As the world became a smaller place, and societies with conservative and liberal views of sex intermingled, fun was in the air. 

In so much as man,seldom understood the female sexual dynamic which was amplified by the mystery of the female orgasm,or lack thereof, man found pleasure in almost anything which would relieve his sexual need and therefore, he focused on a simple blow job to take his emotional edge away.   In the process on men's sexual liberation from intercourse, women discovered giving their partner a blow job was often the best of all worlds since the gift of a blow job did not involve an emotional attachment in the way conventional sex can attach an emotional commitment.

Just as blow jobs and oral sex became the preferred sex method of the sport sex generation, enter a brand new opportunity, anal sex. Anal sex for men was like a blow job on steroids and for women it gave the best of intercourse without the risk of pregnancy, or the risk of the kind or the depth of emotional attachment vaginal intercourse can bring. Anal sex, borrowed from man on man sex seemed to provide the perfect solution for both men and women to enjoy sexual play with limited emotional risk. Perhaps this new sexual dynamic is in part to blame for the drop in births in many western countries.

Of course, change always results in unanticipated consequences and in this case, there are many potential risks and changes which will challenge future generations. Removing woman's emotional investment from vaginal sex will have an unknown long term consequence on relationships as we know them today. Incest, a practice as old as is time, is likely to grow and flourish because anal sex removes the pregnancy risk which opens up an entirely new opportunity for inquiring minds and sexual predators worldwide.

Both sexes emerge as winners and losers in this sexual revolution. Men win because they never understood the role sex played in the female mind and women benefited by a reduction in the pregnancy risk to a manageable level. Women are winners because they can have male type relationships (perhaps an extension of women's liberation) minus the emotional attachment and the pregnancy risk. Both men and women risk the same loss of understanding the value of the sense of commitment and safety an emotional commitment brings. 

Women face an additional risk to some extent men do not, which is what to do with and how to release the passionate emotion which only a committed relationship has the potential to set free. Women can manage their emotional needs through aerobic exercise which begs the answer, why there are today women's only gyms, as one of the fastest growing parts of the exercise network. 

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The Things Women Lie About and Why

 

For as long as I remember, including as far back and my reading has taken me, women have been often accused of misrepresenting certain facts about their lives, usually their age, and their weight. I have always written that off to a from of female macho akin to man bravado about his physical powers and strength. 

Recently however, another really interesting misrepresentation has made it self known to me, one I must confess, i've known about for many years, just never filed it under the right category until today when a very young woman, assured me, she know all about sex, and all about having and enjoying orgasms.

It is possible, all she said was true, however, experience suggests, it is not, for the following reasons. An orgasm, is an erotic sight seeing trip to the fireworks show, sudden blindness, uncontrollable tears, total loss of all muscle control, squirting, defecation and simple loss of all conscientious thought for varying lengths of time. Any particular woman may experience one or more of these erotic fantasies per orgasm.

I have learned over the course of time, for a woman to enter the kingdom of orgasmic delight she must be absent of fear and have absolute trust in her partner, and there in lies the greatest problem to the successful orgasm. The number of women who suffer some form of abuse rape, bullying etc. is well over 60%, and it is these women who are usually the ones with the deepest passion and conversely the ones most likely to be afraid. 

What makes this even more interesting, is that males have no way of knowing, to what extent his female partner is sexually invested in their love making as long as she is lubricated, he is good to go. Once man experiences his release, he assumes, his partner is now in the same space he is in and usually, she does not bust his bubble. At some point, many women come to believe, that the vaginal muscular contractor they experience, is all there is. 

Bottom line, we have the blind leading the blind and one of the blind get constantly left out, even when she comes to believe she was not. Personally, ive never met a woman who had any idea how an orgasm occurs in the first place, or even how to make it deeper or longer. Second, ive met many women who tell  me they know what an orgasm was all about until they discovered they did not and experienced one for the very first time. 

Perhaps, i am a failure in choosing sex partners, but none of the women i have met over the course of my life had ever experienced an orgasm, until i took away their fear and instilled a sense of trust.

Why do Men

Prefer a

Blow Job 

As a person who was never a big fan of blow jobs i've often wondered why they were so favored by so many, both men and women.  There are of course, the obvious reasons, simple, quick, immediate and portability almost any where works.

Then there are the not so obvious reasons, male relief without the possibility of pregnancy (unless she tricked you of course), and the woman's ability to satisfy her partners erotic need without risking an emotional attachment which is always the risk a woman assumes with conventional sex.

However, I think i may have discovered the holy grail of blow jobs rational. Watching pictures and movies of male on male sex, one observation is generally always true. Male on male sex appears to be more mechanical, than male female sex, lacking in obvious emotion, tenderness or hugs and a sense of an emotional bond so common in male female sex. I am not suggesting there is no emotion bond in male to male sex, its just vastly different in how it is displayed during a sexual encounter.

Could it be, that mans emotional composition has little in common with woman's sense of passion and therefore is generally incapable of or in fear of any connection which might translate into an emotional connection. This gives new meaning to the old saying, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Women are generally happy to indulge mans oral needs as it for them is quick and does not subject their erotic mind to an unfulfilled erotic moment.

Generally, man is a selfish lover, only concerning himself with his pleasure and assuming once he has enjoyed his release, his partner by definition has enjoyed hers simply because he enjoyed his and it is her responsibility to please him, period.

I believe, the differences between how erotic emotion is expressed by different sexes defines the physical response but respects the erotic intellectual need to achieve erotic release.

 

 

The Soul of a Woman

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Many years ago, when i set out to try to understand the many facets of woman, never in my wildest imagination, did I ever dream of the many layers of life, I would need to peel back, one at a time, much like an onion, until at long last, what remained was something often dreamed about, frequently talked about, but almost never experienced or enjoyed, the Soul of a Woman.

Woman, is without a doubt, the most powerful yet misunderstood, and abused  animal, human or otherwise on the face of the earth,  who despite the obstacles placed in her path, continues to both excite and confuses men as they have so often pointed out, but is often so complex that they confuse each other, and themselves. 

Women, despite their inner strength and resolve, are no match for man's exterior strength and power. Each woman inner strength, however  is almost always the winner where ever the test is one of endurance, and not instant power. Women's intellect as recent data tends to reveal, is more than an equal match for that of men, and in most cases superior.

Having said that, however, women have a wild card that is the core of who they are and what they do. The value of that core however, is totally dependent upon how outside influence effects her core either in a positive or negative manner. The core, the center of woman's strength and power, is her inner strength that flows from what is commonly known as her passion. Raw naked, fearless passion, comprises and is the fundamental building block of the Soul of a Woman.

The combination or a woman's hormone levels, intellect and strength of character form the core of her Soul. How the dynamics of her Soul are displayed and implemented is a function of her ability to mitigate fear in all its many forms. Man in his wisdom, uses every idea, trick or device, to enhance the core fear of a woman, because he clearly understands the existence of fear, is the only thing which tilts the balance of power in his direction.

Women on the other hand have for centuries, fought back and often rebalanced the scale of fear, by only sharing with man, that which he wants, and almost never, that which he needs. It is an interesting dynamic, this sexual dance between fear and want. man and woman, and sadly a contest, no one really wins. 

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 Sexual Attraction How Does 

It Differ from Males

to Females

Erotically, any attempt to compare sexual attraction between men and women borders on the the impossible and more than any other single element of sexuality is solely responsible for sexual dysfunction between sex partners.

Erotically, sexual attraction is recognized and processed differently by men and women but the process after attraction is essentially managed by the mind in much the same fashion to orgasm, even though the outcome can be very different between partners.

First, lets think about the erotic process of man, for it is much easier to explain. Mans erotic attraction is rarely anything other than visual. Once his brain receives the visual signal from his eyes, the process of erection is easily achieved to orgasm by the increased blood flow to the penis and the resulting ripping apart of the muscles in the penis to create that feeling man loves so much.

The nice thing about man is he is easy to erotically manage since for most, a blow job or anything open and warm will generally bring him to orgasm. Unlike his female partner, man can not have an erection without being totally erotically stimulated in his mind. Consequently, there is never ever a question about mans mind body connection in sex. Unfortunately, the same can not be said for women.

Erotically, women are stimulated less by visual images and more by sensual stimulation. A recent study suggested the number one female stimulation was, smell. However, unlike her male counterpart, it is not easy to determine when and to what extent, women are sexually aroused, there being no undeniable final answer.

Yes their nipples may harden, breathing change or increase in lubrication in their genitals, but unlike men when it is all or nothing, women can be stimulated any where from 0 to 100% and her partner will never know unless she tells him, which of course, women always do :-)

Releasing 100% of her erotic energy means much more to a woman than to a man. to a man, its a magic moment and now he is ready to enjoy the next. To a woman, total erotic  completion requires her mind to be 100% invested in her sex partner, and to do that, risks control, something, most women are not willing to do if they can control the outcome, which is not always the case.

Sexual abuse impacts both sexes but effects each differently. men who have experienced sexual abuse will have great difficulty achieving or maintaining  an orgasm while women on the other hand will simply have the connectors between her senses and her vaginal, turned down or in many cases off, because she relives the abuse and fear over rides pleasure. This woman is often labeled as cold, but in most cases, buy the time the woman should have reached completion, her male partner is already finished and the resulting female orgasm is easy to fake.

Since studies suggest of 50% of all women will experience sexual abuse in their lifetime, and most remain silent or simply abuse themselves with pain, a substantial number of men, who have enjoyed sex with these women have always been the benefactor of a faked orgasm.

A for the women who have not experienced abuse the news is still not good for men because the risk between the partners is very different. If a man has an orgasm, it is generally easy to verify. Women on the other hand can experience an erotic feeling from 0-110% with the males having no idea now invested she is in the orgasmic process. 

A woman, who has no fear, and who is presented with an opportunity to complete the orgasmic process to 100% completion, must then decide if it is this time and this person to whom she wants to surrender her sexual control. From an woman's prospective, it is not and easy choice to make, and unless or until, she has irrefutable proof that this is the right choice, she will fake.

         

Toping from the Bottom, Power & Sex

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Religion Sex & Women

The Essence of Absolute Power

 

Women of the world are best defined by who and what they are not, rather than who they really are. They are taught from cradle to grave that each is alike in the same fashion as cookie cutters, yet we know there is no such thing as  normal where women are concerned. Each and every woman enjoys dark thoughts, yet almost none dare give light to their darkness for fear of being labeled an outcast witch or mentally deranged. Religion and society, have painted a picture of womanhood designed to serve a purpose of domination and control.

 

The picture of womanhood so artfully painted into the mind of each woman as they grow into womanhood defines a person who is made to believe in the inherit weakness of their sex, and cements a natural submissive mind into a weak and fearless person. How is woman to celebrate herself when all that defines her from cradle to grave causes great shame and fear, having to live a life that does not reflect who she really is inside.

 

The reality of womanhood, when all the layers of control are removed displays a person who enjoys a sense of intellect, strength of character, passion and giving, which  arises from their natural role of care givers to all. As a consequence woman lives a double life, one which society requires and one who she was born to be. Her sense of passion drives the erotic needs of women to a point women fear and society refuses to recognize. Therefore, woman has learned to hide and guard, her erotic passion as if it represented all the gold in Fort Knox, for failure to do so, is to lay bare her passion with a total lack of control.

 

Like men, women require a total erotic mind commitment to achieve a real orgasm, something almost no woman ever achieves, because surrender, defines her weak spot, releasing a tenderness she is powerless to control. Therefore, women have learned to give to men, only that which is necessary and not a single drop more.She has learned to use mans sense of power to her advantage by being the instrument of his pleasure by any means necessary without making or taking a substantial erotic risk of her own. Woman has learned that management of men's sex requirements are simple no matter the delivery method, and that man has no idea he is being used as her sexual pawn in a game in which she has limited erotic investment

 

Not submitting her erotic mind to her partner yields greater power for woman than man, in his best moments, can aspire too. Of course, this game women play can also be turned against them, if they are lucky enough to meet the person, male or female, who can pierce their protected inner core of passion and thereby take control of her mind. However, for most women, this is a fairy tale that never comes true. The amount of trust necessary to give rise to a total erotic release is more often than not compromised by abuse thus creating a sense of erotic trust beyond understanding or attainment.

 

Men, on the other hand, like to define themselves by their notion of power especially when it provides dominance over less power hungry men or women. Men believe the mind of woman, though strange from time to time, operates exactly as does theirs and has the same or similar erotic needs and desires as that which pleases man. In so much  as man is both one dimensional and self centered, he presents an easy target for woman to control, without making an erotic investment in either the man or the relationship.

 

Man is sexually disadvantaged in sex in so much as he requires a full erection to achieve orgasm, and to achieve that erection, requires his total erotic commitment without exception. Man hunts sex like a predator seeking erotic pleasure in any form that creates "his orgasm", without consideration of the erotic needs of his partner.  Man has no idea that his female partner is almost always faking her erotic pleasure, to please her partner and to retain control of her erotic emotions. Mans physical power is offset by his need to always be in pursuit of eroticism.

 

When you consider the balance of power between men and women, Strength vs Sex, the rational of eastern religious leaders does not sound so dumb speaking from the males prospective. for man to preserve his illusion of power, women must be tightly controlled, denied access to education, opportunities and association with people or intuitions who promote sexual freedom and opportunity.

 

A recent quote from a eastern religious leader "women must remain covered so as not to tempt the men into their sexual charms" flies in the face of reality. Restrain the women so as not to taint the morals of otherwise good religious men. Recent statements in the US from mega church leaders promote a similar concept that women are by nature inferior to man and should be available to man as man so pleases. Therefore, men are groomed to believe they are lord of all they survey, and use that sense of power to take what they want, without realizing as they take, they lose control of that which they believed was beneath them.

 

Part of the way women deal with their passion is to deny themselves, that which they need if favor of that which they want. Full filling wants does not risk emotional attachment, but full filling needs drives passion to the core of her being. To reach the core, one must pass trust, and that is a journey few men ever get to enjoy.

 

It is amusing to this writer, that while most women are treated involuntarily as property it is the slave, who at the end of the day, through the manipulation of mans need for sex and ego, expressed in his own sense of self, who can usually get what they want and or desire, However, nothing comes with out a price, and in the case of women, denial of a real orgasm, creates mental in balances between passion and need, that almost always express themselves sooner or later in addictive food, drink and or drugs on the path to depression.

 

Religion has been used as an enhancement to male power, but the question begs to be answered, does male power trump female power, especially when viewed in the light of the intellectual, and emotional edge women enjoy over men. It gives new meaning to the phrase  "Toping from the Bottom"