Female Sexual Freedom, Myth or Reality
Why Female Orgasms Matter
The women's liberation movement which
began in the 90's challenged the world to give women parity with men in all
areas of employment, wages, social status and self image. That revolution,
while not perfect has made serious inroads into the world of male domination
and control. However as in all revolutions, there are unintended consequences
which persist today and which in many respects make what has evolved from the
women's liberation movement, more of a problem than a solution.
Initially, women were confused with what
exactly being liberated was intended to mean. Many concluded they were both
equal to and therefore supposed to behave like men. That of course opened the
door to unintended consequence when women tried to emulate men which resulted
in some very unpleasant conclusions. Today, most of those unintended
consequences are in the rear view mirror as women settle into their workplace
role as women being woman. While not yet perfect, the economic side of women’s
liberation is now moving in the right direction.
Unfortunately however, the world of human
sexuality was excluded from the women's liberation movement at a time, when the
pressures on women in the work place, often in a hostile environment, needed
the relief that only a fulfilling sexual relationship could bring. Women
arrived at the door of women's liberation with minds subdued by abuse in all
its many forms plus the indignity of rape, but those were the lucky ones.
Countless others arrived wounded and hurt but thanks to PTSD, induced by sexual
violence or abuse had no understanding of the anger that fueled their daily
rage.
It is important to understand that an orgasm
is totally a mind based function in both males and females. The way
the mind releases energy differs in each sex which also impacts how each sex
achieves orgasm. Male energy tends to be released in a burst and
therefore the male orgasm tends to be rapid and quick. Female energy tends to be
released in a steady flow which unlike the male orgasm builds
to a point where conscious thought is lost and the mind is left to find its own
way back to conscious thought . It is not hard to imagine, how
frightening this experience can be, when experienced for the first time. How a
woman has her first orgasm will generally define all orgasms which do or do not
follow.
Women who have been abused in any way
including rape or innocent childhood play can experience blocked nerve pathways
from their body to their minds, thus inhibiting their ability to orgasm. Often
these same women are defined as being frigid or nymphs. Frigid because their minds have been conditioned to associate sex with
pain or nymph’s because sex is pure exercise and has no or limited brain
control. A patient and loving partner can usually over time overcome the
mental block. The exception to this would be the woman who experienced a
physical structural issue due to growths or failure to lubricate.
Today, as in 1990, before the sexual
revolution began, women continue to service the sexual requirements of both
their male and female partners, without any sexual fulfillment of their own.
Males conclude their orgasm, oral or otherwise, is as satisfying for his or her
female partner as it was for the man. Rare is the woman who complains, and rare
is the man who cares. Women are also their worst enemy, when they fake orgasms
leading men to believe they have performed well. Consequently, few men have
ever experienced a real orgasm
Women, who show no outward sign of their
sexual preparedness find it easy to trick men into believing they had an orgasm
when that is rarely the case, by mimicking the actions and sounds men have seen
on porno flicks. Anal sex is now the rage but while there are more nerve stimuli in the rectal splinter muscle than
the vagina, few women benefit because the male does not take the time to prepare
and lubricate his partner.
Men and women process energy differently,
men in a burst, women in measured doses often referred to as stamina. The
female hormone makes energy available to women to allow them the ability to
have children and raise a family. To the extent that energy is not used it
remains stored in her mind, until if not released, it begins to find other
outlets usually leading to emotional distress, evidenced by depression. The
road to non clinical depression is paved with abuse of all kinds, followed by
food, liquor and drugs.
The female orgasm is understood by very
few people, male or female, and is generally believed to be related to
demanding physical sexual play. In reality, just the reverse is true. The
female mind in its fearless state, can orgasm in and of itself, the word
fearless being the wild card. With as many as 87% of all women reporting some
form of sexual abuse, few abuse free minds remain. Therefore, it is imperative
that women demand from their sexual partners whatever is reasonably required
for them to achieve orgasm first, not after the male for if the reverse is true
then he will have lost all interest
Any new relationship should begin with the
understanding, women, before men, but that carries with it the need to help
your partner understand your fear and why that fear exists. The male, who is
willing to invest the time and effort to understand the emotional needs of his
partner will be rewarded with a faithful partner for life. Any person, male or
female who refuses to put the needs of their female partner before their own,
does not despite what they may say, have your best interest at heart.
Finally, it appears that the number of same
sex relationships between women are on the rise, but the odds are that neither
the teacher or the student has ever had an orgasm. That of course begs the
question, how can her partner know the difference between acting and reality.
My suspicion is that, based upon how many
nerve pathway are not restrained by fear, no two orgasms will ever be the same,
but one visible sign is hard to miss and that is the loss of muscle control usually
though the lower half of her body or squirting which may or may not be a sign
of orgasm because of weakened muscles during child birth.
In addition, the orgasm might also be evidenced
by a temporary blackout short loss of vision and or speech, mind based visions
of fireworks or stars, inability to speak and uncontrollable tears to name a few.
The power of the female orgasm mandates her partner comforts her, hold and
continue to talk to her until the orgasm has passed. After the first orgasm is
experienced, she will often find the experience frightening but no longer
believe she is dying, yet it is and always will be critical that her partner,
male or female, continue to comfort her until the moment has passed.
Finally, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder) presents an entirely different challenge to her partner. While the
woman may know, something is wrong, she will have no idea what is wrong or why.
PTSD is a response to fear, of such a magnitude that the erotic mind simply
shuts down and closes shop. This woman will never achieve orgasm until that
block is removed. The degree of fear required to produce PTSD varies from girl to
girl or woman to woman. Patience confidence and time can often remove the
block, even in those cases where the trigger event is never remembered.
Man, king of the beasts and the hill is
defined by selfishness, some by nature, some by ignorance where it comes to the
needs of a woman. Therefore ladies, it is up to you to train your man how to
love you and never to let him control that which he does not understand. Your
mental well being is at stake, teach it, or lose it.
Female Orgasms Matter ©
