Female sex without satisfaction

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Why do women, submit to sex without completion and in silence. Simple, because their failure to achieve a total release is to them a mark of a personal issue, and they suffer in silence all their erotic life believing that their feeling of a greater need means something is wrong with them. Seldom does it enter their mind that it is their partner who due to a lack of understanding of their need or simple selfishness, has no idea that his partner is not happy because he had an orgasm. The male usually believes that once he cums, the woman is then satisfied.

Erotic silence on the part of the female, makes her, her own worst enemy. learn to talk and to sharte your needs with your partner and if he has an issue with your needs, find a new partner who is will to address your real needs. never ever be embarrassed to discuss what you need.

Domination & Submission, What does it really mean

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Two central themes are at the heart of d/s, the first being the need for control and the second , the sense of belonging when one feels out of step with what is so called "Normal". After that, there are as many variations of d/s as grains of sand on the beach, so the essence of any prospective submissive person is to identify Masters whose interests match their real needs.

This Masters sense of d/s is intellectually based, and requires total mind control, a fierce desire to please others, and an unselfish commitment to giving, without expectation of return. However, for this to be successful, trust must first be established and all fear in the mind of the slave released. The degree of success of the master slave relationship are directly dependant upon the success of the trust/fear solution.

Desire and control tend to be relatively simple to achieve, however, unselfish giving proves to be the stumbling bock for many who are seeking a kind of love that requires that they be given too, in exchange for the giving.

The pure definition of real love, is the ability to give without expectation of return. That definition is valid for all life styles. However, selfishness, taught from the cradle to the grave is responsible for most unsuccessful relations. Selfishness, is a by product of absence of trust which is generally absent in vanilla but is supposed to be the corner stone of d/s. That however is rare in both vanilla and d/s, but those of us who are purest, always strive to get the very best and unselfish giving is as good as it gets.

Are Women more Submissive than Men

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Actually, most people like to be controlled, reference the number of organized groups for both men and women. I believe both sex's need control equally, but women tend to be more honest about their need for control than men. Women are often compromised by their passion to seek control while men are embarrassed by their need to be macho to admit what they need. In the hands of the right master, either sex can be essentially gender neutral

Who Needs Sex More, Men or Women

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For men, sex is recreational playtime which is why men can be so indiscriminate in their choice of partners and their slam bamg thank u mame approach to sex. Women on the other hand are captives to their sexuality for that experessed as passion guides their every action and colors their every thought. Therefore, sexual tension, to some extent, is always present and always seeking release insome form or another. Unfortunately, fear, learned from birth ofter color and restricts a womans ability to absorb all of her passion into all the diciplines of her life. Consequently, learning how to control passion for use in her total lifes work, is therefore vital to a woman and her suxuality therefore becomes far more important to her than that ofa man. Whie women need sexual activity on many different levels, it is rare that that is achieved sine women are reluctant to discuss their real erotic needs for fear of being labeled by men and men most of the time, simply have no interest thinkg women need be more liek them :-))

The sad truth however is that while women need sex more than men, they get far less than men becuause of the many social conventions which control thier mind and create fear to simply be who they are, not what they were made to be.

Then What is Abnormal

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Abnormal, is the a state of existance when one has denied being their natural self, in order to conform to anothers so called idea of a normal state. Since there is no such thing as a normal state, outside of ones own existance, any beings who is existing using standards set by another is said to be in an abnormal state. This will of course include all people who conform to social order groups like religion, clubs, lifestyles, etc where normal is a defined or understood term. even the entire argument about abortion is fundemantally about control of woman, no matter which side fo the discussion you find yourself leaning on.

Thed Myth of "Normal"

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For as long as you have been alive, the word "Normal" as been consistently applied to individuals in an attempt to define social norms ignoring in total the diversity and individualism of each individual. No two people, male or female are alike, therefore the application of the concept of normal when applied to people, is an attempt to impose symmetry on to an asymmetric being. The concept of normal is another element of control used by individuals or groups to impose their concept of self unto a larger population.

The imposition of the concept of Normal has caused irreparable harm to millions, primarily women, as men tend to ignore established norms to a greater extent than do women. As a result, many women have spent the entirety of their lives trying to fit their diversity into the "Normal" expectations of self which society has embraced mostly through organized groups vying for control of the mind of women.

This is most clearly seen in female eroticism, where each female mind responds to different erotic stimuli, yet all erotic rresponses that are not considered "Normal" are therefore thought to be abnormal and therefore, must be suppressed so as to fit into the concept of normal. This suppression of erotic need and diversity, ultimately leads to depression, excess weight, alcohol and drug abuse, as the woman struggles to fit her sexual identity into the normal funnel. Many, who can not balance their personal need with the concept of Normal, turn to religion as a way top purify their erotic need, since in many cases, it is religion that defines what normal is and is not. The usually tends to compound the problem.

The concept of normal as it applies to women in particular, was an outgrowth, not of religion, but of man, in his attempt to control women, who man discovered early on were by far the stronger sex but have one tiny weakness, the were easy to scare. Since man did not possess the capacity to understand woman, and the variety of erotic needs she possessed, he created normal to simplify his understanding so he could make all women essentially the same, and for those who refused to be scared, he created labels such as whore, nymphomaniac, etc to redefine their relationship to the male established norm.

Perhaps one of the cruel examples of mans need to control women can be seen in certain religions where the clitoris of the female is cut off, thus depriving the woman of physical sexual pleasure without any similar such deprivation for men. It is a very good thing man does not know that the seat of eroticism is mental, not physical, for then, they might try to remove the mind of the woman as well

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Fear & Pleasure

Fear is usually the absence of pleasure and usually the result of an unanticipated event be it verbal or physical. Fear, much like pain is a matter of perception and can yield interesting consequences in different people, For most, fear produces a near catatonic state, while for others, it can be a powerful erotic stimulus where erotic highs are attained.

What defines what the end result of fear is going to be and how it will register in the mind, i believe it is a sense of control that grows within the envelop of fear giving erotic freedom within the boundaries of the fear. Like being trapped in a cage with a disaster looming all around and yet feeling safe within that space and turned on by the excitement of the impending disaster looming all around.

It is a mind space that many can find within the larger scope of otherwise immobilizing fear. I have hear many women remark, they can reach their erotic peaks only in an atmosphere of paralyzing fear.

Pain & Pleasure

Understanding the fine line between pain and pleasure has its origins in the perception of the mind to the nature of the stimulus. What registers as pain to one, registers as pleasure to another. The line between pain and pleasure in women has a lot to do with perception and fear. Example, when you squeeze your nipples in pursuit of erotic pleasure, it registers in your mind as pleasure but if you were in a state of fear, and your nipples were similarly squeezed, it would bring you pain.

Therefore perception of the act to be performed, and not the act itself often determines how the action is registered in your mind. Fear is now and always will be the defining point of pleasure.

Time

When asked, what is the most important single thing in my life, I always respond, TIME. Time is the one thing over which you have no control, in either its beginning or its end. Many have been heard to say, i will do that tomorrow, only to discover, tomorrow, never comes for them and that opportunity is lost forever. This moment, is now history, it will never ever be repeated again. Therefore, one must never waste the moment at hand for that is all you are guaranteed. You could say, life is all about stringing together, a succession of moments, squeezing from each all that the moment will yield, for not to do so, is an accident waiting to happen.

Listening, the greater sense.

Education and life teach you to enhance many things, but little or now attention is paid to the critical skill of listening. In many instances, in an attempt to fit in, we are so busy thinking about our next thought that we pay only slight attention to what is being said. Learning how to perfect the skill of listening will provide you with great returns and much better understanding of the world around you. Perhaps, an even greater sill is the ability to hear that which is not said and understand the role silence plays in an otherwise verbal conversation.

I like or need to be told what to do. Is that wrong

Most people male or female, enjoy being told what to do, to one extent or another. People who join the military, clubs, gangs, d/s relationships and the super duper club of all, religion, each exhibit different forms of mind and physical control. The need or the desire for control is a character trait, hard wired into your brain at birth and therefore is nothing to be ashamed of or to fear, except the motivation of the person or group to whom you entrust your control.

Fearing your need for control is just a damaging as investing that control in the wrong hands, since a person who needs total control tends to wonder through life aimlessly and without direction. Those who are products of abuse, tend to choose abusive controllers, for the simple reason, their mind is conditioned to equate abuse with belonging and often, confuse it with love.

What is an Orgasm and how does it happen

Over the course of many years, i have never met a woman who had any idea, how the orgasmic process in her body worked. Understanding its operation has the effect of extending both the duration and the intensity of each orgasm. When the mind is free of fear, then the intensity and duration of the orgasmic experience is defined by the imagination and intellect of the woman but limited by her aerobic physical conditioning, since the orgasmic moment is the best exercise known but only has real value as an exercise, if the body and mind can substain it for an extended period of time. In so much as the orgasmic process places significant physical requirements on the body to enjoy the imagination of the mind, the better your physical condition, the longer your duration.

Oh, I am sorry, you thought I was going to tell you how it worked :-)). If you are truly interested, i am certain you will find a way to discover this little known fact for yourself

Are Bk men better lovers

You have often hear the slogan, when you go bk, you never go back. the basis of this goes back once again to stereotypes and to the perception to live up to the stereotype. Because of the history of this issue, bk men tend to put more effort in pleasing their lovers than most other men tend to do. Many non bk men, for social economic reasons are more interested in power than pleasure and therefore wish more to be pleased than to please. This makes it very easy for the stereotype to live on

Are bk men really bigger

I regret to say, no. the average penis for all races is 6 inches, which is also the average depth of the female vagina. So why do so many people think bk men have bigger penises. Interesting answer. Non bk penises when soft are approximately the same size when they are erect, while bk penises when soft are much smaller than they are when they are erect. I believe, it is the change in the size of the bk penis from soft to hard that has led to a part of the rumor, together with the fulfillment of the stereotype the tends to show only the biggest of the bk penises, a stereotype that was an out growth of slavery and the animal analogy

Are there more than one kind of Orgasm

Yes, there are several, vaginal, clitoral, anal and mental. Masturbation in many women has the result of changing the seat of passion from the vaginal lips to the clitoris. While many younger women have discover the pleasure of anal sex (the anal cavity has more nerve endings than the vagina) , mental orgasm produce by far the more intense orgasm because the erotic mind of the woman must be totally engaged for this orgasm to occur. In fact, the mental orgasm in a woman, most closely resembles that of the male orgasm since both must be totally engaged to reach orgasm. Unfortunately, very few women ever achieve or, are even aware that such a thing exists. Most are taught to believe it is the physical experience, that produces the only kind of orgasm and therefore, since their minds are never totally engaged in the physical mode, they never achieve erotic completion

I have dark desires, what is wrong with me

Nothing, in all likelihood, Eroticism in women is varied as grains of sand on the beach although society tries to force all women into a narrow tunnel of sex based upon the religios theory that sex should be for procreation only and otherwise abstained from. One of the great advantages of the internet has been the discovery by women that their view of eroticism is enjoyed by a very large number of women. A womans erotic desires are framed by her gene pool, intellect, imagination, passion and life experiences. Many women have adopted the view that all that brings them pleasure and harms no one, should be pursued to its logical conclusion.

How does one become Dominate or Submissive

Domination or Submission is a gene trait, hard wired into your brain when conceived. While I have never seen any formal evidence, it is my experience that Domination and Submission exists equally in both males and females. However, it is important to understand, the degree of an individuals Domination or Submissive trait varies widely and can be adversely or positively effected by their life experiences.

How do Men and Women differ in their Sexual Pleasure

Men are simple to please, women are much more complex, and therefore almost never fulfilled. Sex exists almost totally in the mind and is expressed through the body. A man, once stimulated has his erotic mind totally engaged when he moves to erection and therefore will attain total release. Woman on the other hand, must engage her mind totally to achieve total release, but having no measurement like the male erection to measure her success, often must settle for what ever her partner decides is enough. For a woman to reach erotic completion, her mind must be free of fear, entrusting in her partner and totally focused on the moment. Unfortunately, this level of engagement, rarely occurs and therefore, most women settle for a fraction of release , forever thinking, that is all there is.

Is there such a thing as a nymphomatic

No, A woman described by themselves or their partners as a Nympho is simply a woman who has not found a partner will to pay attention to and identify her core erotic needs. fullfill her needs and fatisfaction will come very soon

Why are so many women not happy

women are technically stronger than men but men are physically stronger than women. Man learned many years ago, that he had to find a way to control his woman, so they turned to organizations religious and otherwise to scare women into control. Man succeeded beyond his wildest imagination and women are therefore taught that their natural feelings of passion are unnatural or immoral. women attempt to deal with this conflict between society and self by any nomber of destructive habits, most notably food, drugs, depression, etc.

can strong successful women be submissives

yes, in fact, many are. while successful in their professional careers, they welcome someone else to control in their own space. Most of the most successful relationships include strong intelligent women who happen to be submissive in nature

Are Submissives weak or needy people

no, considering most people are more submissive than dominate, a relationship between master and slave is a relationship of Equals, with each partner contributing opposite and complimentary needs to the relationship

How dose D/S Differ from Ordinary Relationships

Relationship between a Dominate and A Submissive begin with trust and mutual respect and eventually work their way to more traditional feelings. Traditional relationship begin with intimacy and romance, then after the relationship is created, they try to find trust and respect. This is why so many traditional relationships fail today because they leave the tough issues to the end while d/s address them upfront

How do I know if I am Submissive

If you prefer to give, than to receive and if you wish to giveup some or all control over your life, you are most likely Submissive

How do i choose a master

Masters and Slaves share one thing in common, both respond to their core needs as people. therefore you must identify your core needs as they differ from your wants. match your core needs with those of your prospective master. The closer the match the better the relationship

Can I teach my friend to dominate me

No, you are born to be either Dominate or Submissive and no amount of training can change that. Bear in mind however, there are many shades of both domination and submission from almost none to total. Find your natural role and enjoy it