Why Female Orgasms

Matter

The Women’s Rights Movement helped women to make great and important strides in employment, equal pay for equal work and the self image of the importance of being female, a revolution which has not been lost on the next generation of young girls.

While the equal rights movement successfully began a revolution in the structural life of women, it ignored the emotional changes the structural change would make in the mental health of women. Many women concluded success in the work place required women to behave more like men in a complete reversal of woman’s traditional role in family life.

 Many women believed the equal rights movement inferred a sense of equality with men that nature never intended to occur, because the two sexes have completely different emotional and mental health needs. The emotional needs of women differ from those of men as does night differ from day.

The emotional difference can best be observed in the way each sex uses energy. Men tend to have strong bursts of energy, far in excess of the power of woman. Woman on the other hand has measured releases of energy that provide the energy to manage their family obligations each and every day. Men can not match womans sustained release of energy just as woman can not match mans burst of energy release.

The importance of hormone generated energy becomes important in the way such energy is dissipated during the course of each day. Man enjoys many outlets for the daily release of his excess energy. Women on the other hand while needing the identical energy release generally only have two options, exercise or sexual orgasm.

 The problem for women occurs because few have the time at the end of each day to exercise after work and family responsibilities. The female orgasm, natures built in excess energy release valve is stuck in the off position for any number of reasons ranging from male insensitivity demanding his satisfaction while ignoring hers, to her inability to overcome prior sexual abuse leaving her mind frozen in sexual neutral.

Absence of the release of pent up energy in women creates energy over load, a mind she cannot shut off, and a near constant search to find mental peace. The search for mental peace seeks any available source, generally beginning with food graduating to substance abuse before checking into emotional over load, and depression.

To end this spiral of emotional denial, women must take a proactive stance with their partners to give their emotional release equal attention and shun relationships which do not offer equal relationship opportunity. Exercise can work for many women but sex should be mandated to work for all, if equal right for women is to ever achieve its real promise.

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Female Sexual Freedom, Myth or Reality

Why Female Orgasms Matter

The women's liberation movement which began in the 90's challenged the world to give women parity with men in all areas of employment, wages, social status and self image. That revolution, while not perfect has made serious inroads into the world of male domination and control. However as in all revolutions, there are unintended consequences which persist today and which in many respects make what has evolved from the women's liberation movement, more of a problem than a solution.

Initially, women were confused with what exactly being liberated was intended to mean. Many concluded they were both equal to and therefore supposed to behave like men. That of course opened the door to unintended consequence when women tried to emulate men which resulted in some very unpleasant conclusions.  Today, most of those unintended consequences are in the rear view mirror as women settle into their workplace role as women being woman. While not yet perfect, the economic side of women’s liberation is now moving in the right direction.

Unfortunately however, the world of human sexuality was excluded from the women's liberation movement at a time, when the pressures on women in the work place, often in a hostile environment, needed the relief that only a fulfilling sexual relationship could bring. Women arrived at the door of women's liberation with minds subdued by abuse in all its many forms plus the indignity of rape, but those were the lucky ones. Countless others arrived wounded and hurt but thanks to PTSD, induced by sexual violence or abuse had no understanding of the anger that fueled their daily rage.

It is important to understand that an orgasm is totally a mind based function in both males and females. The way the mind releases energy differs in each sex which also impacts how each sex achieves orgasm. Male energy tends to be released in a burst and therefore the male orgasm tends to be rapid and quick. Female energy tends to be released in a steady flow which unlike the male orgasm builds to a point where conscious thought is lost and the mind is left to find its own way back to conscious thought . It is not hard to imagine, how frightening this experience can be, when experienced for the first time. How a woman has her first orgasm will generally define all orgasms which do or do not follow.

Women who have been abused in any way including rape or innocent childhood play can experience blocked nerve pathways from their body to their minds, thus inhibiting their ability to orgasm. Often these same women are defined as being frigid or nymphs. Frigid because their minds have been conditioned to associate sex with pain or nymph’s because sex is pure exercise and has no or limited brain control. A patient and loving partner can usually over time overcome the mental block. The exception to this would be the woman who experienced a physical structural issue due to growths or failure to lubricate.

Today, as in 1990, before the sexual revolution began, women continue to service the sexual requirements of both their male and female partners, without any sexual fulfillment of their own. Males conclude their orgasm, oral or otherwise, is as satisfying for his or her female partner as it was for the man. Rare is the woman who complains, and rare is the man who cares. Women are also their worst enemy, when they fake orgasms leading men to believe they have performed well. Consequently, few men have ever experienced a real orgasm

Women, who show no outward sign of their sexual preparedness find it easy to trick men into believing they had an orgasm when that is rarely the case, by mimicking the actions and sounds men have seen on porno flicks. Anal sex is now the rage but while there are more nerve stimuli in the rectal splinter muscle than the vagina, few women benefit because the male does not take the time to prepare and lubricate his partner.

Men and women process energy differently, men in a burst, women in measured doses often referred to as stamina. The female hormone makes energy available to women to allow them the ability to have children and raise a family. To the extent that energy is not used it remains stored in her mind, until if not released, it begins to find other outlets usually leading to emotional distress, evidenced by depression. The road to non clinical depression is paved with abuse of all kinds, followed by food, liquor and drugs. 

The female orgasm is understood by very few people, male or female, and is generally believed to be related to demanding physical sexual play. In reality, just the reverse is true. The female mind in its fearless state, can orgasm in and of itself, the word fearless being the wild card. With as many as 87% of all women reporting some form of sexual abuse, few abuse free minds remain. Therefore, it is imperative that women demand from their sexual partners whatever is reasonably required for them to achieve orgasm first, not after the male for if the reverse is true then he will have lost all interest

Any new relationship should begin with the understanding, women, before men, but that carries with it the need to help your partner understand your fear and why that fear exists. The male, who is willing to invest the time and effort to understand the emotional needs of his partner will be rewarded with a faithful partner for life. Any person, male or female who refuses to put the needs of their female partner before their own, does not despite what they may say, have your best interest at heart. 

Finally, it appears that the number of same sex relationships between women are on the rise, but the odds are that neither the teacher or the student has ever had an orgasm. That of course begs the question, how can her partner know the difference between acting and reality.

My suspicion is that, based upon how many nerve pathway are not restrained by fear, no two orgasms will ever be the same, but one visible sign is hard to miss and that is the loss of muscle control usually though the lower half of her body or squirting which may or may not be a sign of orgasm because of weakened muscles during child birth.

In addition, the orgasm might also be evidenced by a temporary blackout short loss of vision and or speech, mind based visions of fireworks or stars, inability to speak and uncontrollable tears to name a few. The power of the female orgasm mandates her partner comforts her, hold and continue to talk to her until the orgasm has passed. After the first orgasm is experienced, she will often find the experience frightening but no longer believe she is dying, yet it is and always will be critical that her partner, male or female, continue to comfort her until the moment has passed.

Finally, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) presents an entirely different challenge to her partner. While the woman may know, something is wrong, she will have no idea what is wrong or why. PTSD is a response to fear, of such a magnitude that the erotic mind simply shuts down and closes shop. This woman will never achieve orgasm until that block is removed. The degree of fear required to produce PTSD varies from girl to girl or woman to woman. Patience confidence and time can often remove the block, even in those cases where the trigger event is never remembered.

Man, king of the beasts and the hill is defined by selfishness, some by nature, some by ignorance where it comes to the needs of a woman. Therefore ladies, it is up to you to train your man how to love you and never to let him control that which he does not understand. Your mental well being is at stake, teach it, or lose it.

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At conception, each embryo receives 32 chromosomes from each parent which jointly form her DNA which is the genetic design for who she is both physically and mentally. For most women, that is the singular moment they will ever be the woman they were born to be. From their earliest conscientious moment the minds of little girls are bombarded with someone telling them who they should be, what they should look like, that clothes to wear and why they are no likable or don't fit in with the in crowd..

The verbal and visual assault seems to come from all angles. If she is too smart, she is a show off, but if she is to pretty she is stuck up and on and on. All of this, is layered on top of the child abuse of choice from family friends or strangers, be it verbal, sexual or rape. As if that was not enough, now she is old enough to understand the rigid requirements of social and religious dogma, which is generally inconsistent with who she has been born to be. . The social and religious requirements which she is taught must be obeyed, are almost always not in sync with the birth DNA. A mind which finds itself adverse to social norms is a mind in search for a place to exist where her mind can find piece. For most, that rarely happens. 

Why you might ask, does this issue only impact women, and the answer is simple. Men made the rules on which the social and religious framework of society is constructed. One might ask, why would man create a society that dis empowers woman, and the answer again is simple. Man had then, nor does he now, understand how different are the minds of men and women. The differences can be found in the hormones which serve men and women including how each empowers the other.

Female hormones empower women with great stamina far in excess of that provided to men. Men on the other hand are physically stronger than women but will usually lose when it comes to who can last the longest. These different hormones play out in significantly different ways when it comes to how each sex thinks and feels. Women find erotic stimulation in almost every living thing, some just for admiration, others for erotic excitement. Men, in general, are not invested in such visual mind stimulation beyond an attractive woman.

The erotic dreams, visions, and thoughts of woman run afoul of social and religious dogma designed by men. From this conflict, between what she thinks and what she has been taught, arises the fear that somehow she is possessed by demons. Go into any church on Sunday morning and you will find the ratio of men to women to be greatly out of balance. Men who are in syncs with the rules they made are generally at peace with who they are, so they see no need to seek forgiveness to the extent women do.

Women in the 16th century who dared to exercise their right to mental freedom were branded as witches and burned at the stake. The lesson has not been lost on women over the centuries. Oddly enough, women who talk about everything to their friends, will rarely mention their erotic fantasies for fear they will expose themselves to be crazy. Therefore, they spend their lives in solitude always seeking something to dull the pain of a mind that does not fit. Most seek solitude in alcohol, drugs,or food until finding their way to depression and a course of drugs that dull the pain in their mind. 

Women need to empower themselves to find comfort in who they are because it is the unique difference between one woman to another that defines a sense of beauty that no camera can capture. The beauty of a woman is all about what you can not see, and its in the courage she exhibits to be who she was born to be, especially when her DNA  conflicts with who she has been taught to be. 

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Who Is the Best Lover, Men or Women

The answer to this question lies in understanding what is evidence of the best of sensuality and how can it be measured or observed. While both sexes are capable of similar erotic responses that is seldom the case. Lets examine each to determine the potential of both sexes. There are many misconceptions which impact male female relationships. 

Size is the most misunderstood part of human sexuality experience, for the simple reason that orgasms of both men and woman occur based upon sensual stimulation of the entire body and does not require penal insertion to achieve. Only the brain, can create total body stimulation sufficient to achieve orgasm. Therefore, Size of the male penis is not reverent to a woman sexual pleasure. 

In men fear of sex is rare, in a woman, its more often the rule than the exception as a consequence of one or more of the various kinds of abuse women suffer. The fear which arises from abuse, must be processed by her partner to her comfort zone. Words like frigid and nympho are code names for sexual abuse expressed through pain of sex or the inability to orgasm.

Finding a woman's comfort zone requires a commitment to want to eliminate her fear by establishing trust in her partner as her friend, and having her mind distinguish between the bad and the good guy. Once her comfort zone is achieved, her mind will be receptive to her partners erotic advances provided his movements are slow and deliberate  until it is clear, her mind is totally invested. 

In addition to abuse and rape, the mind of women is bombarded by fashion, childhood bullying, diet, body type, social norms and religion to constantly make her question who she is and if she is sane and frequently leads to depression. Oddly enough, an orgasm is the best medicine to reduce the impact of depression as an orgasm releases the stress and tension produced by excess and unused female hormone. This stress can also be impacted by regular aerobic exercise.

There are many women who are abuse survivors but have no memory of the abuse, only knowing something is wrong and that fear is always her orgasm. While she may never remember what happened, an understanding partner can often bring her emotional peace sufficient to achieve orgasm. 

All women experience sexual fantasies which vary only in type and intensity. These sexual fantasies to the extent they contravene social and religious norms weigh on the mind of all women. Women who discuss everything with their best friends seldom mention their fantasies thereby enforcing the idea that only she is impacted. Fear of fantasies must be a part of the comfort zone process is she is to achieve orgasm. Men on the other hand generally only have one fantasy.

There is one subject in which both men and women seem to agree which is breast size. Women look at the breasts of other women almost as much as does man. Man often chooses his sexual conquests based upon breast size first and  all else second. Women most often are influenced by smell first and thereafter fulfillment of a long standing mental image usually shaped by outside influences including fear, security and goals to name a few of the many. Women like men, seek their vision of their dream partner as they choose who they wish to get to know.

If man is successful in finding his ideal woman getting to know her to the extent of earning her trust, how then does he know, when the moment arrives that she is ready for sex. For her, knowing he is ready only requires her to look down, but how is man to know when she is ready. The answer lies in foreplay in whatever quantity and variety is required to ignite the erotic jets in her mind. There are many ways to determine this moment and all women are different so one size does not fit all. Notice may include any or all of the following, lubrication, increase in breathing, muscle movement, verbal suggestions to name a few. If the minds connect, the orgasms will come together or very close.

Recently, the world has discovered anal sex, and suddenly vaginal sex especially in the under 40 set appears to be running second place. What is interesting about anal sex is that despite the splinter muscle which controls the anal muscle being more sensitive than the vaginal muscles, few woman appear to enjoy anal because man as usual is in a hurry and plunges right in before her muscles get a chance to adjust which rather than creating pleasure, creates pain. So why do women put up with anal, simple, no risk of pregnancy.

So all things considered, the answer to the question is neither is better because man believes woman to be just like him ready at a moments notice and woman seek a partner, who understands what she needs without her having to tell why. 

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Why is Sport Fucking Bad

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While i can site many different reasons, the clear winner is fear, generally induced by a traumatic sexual abuse. The abuse makes her mind miss read the erotic signals from her body to her brain as fear as a direct result of the minds association with rape and or abuse in lieu of the pleasure for which it was intended.

Women produce very large quantities of energy far in excess of that produced by men and that energy to the extent not released through normal daily activities is left to fester awaiting the next fresh energy supply of its release. When this excess built up energy is not released, the mind compensates by causing her to seek comfort in food, alcohol drugs and depression, far too often leading to physical harm.

The orgasm, is natures way of releasing the excess pent up energy. Excess energy can also be release by regular aerobic exercise. Men on the other hand tend to be both selfish and self centered and are always happy once their orgasm occurs. They will frequently ask their partner was that not the best, and she will smile and make him feel like he is king for the day. Man, has absolutely no idea if woman was even turned on or orgasm because frequently the real evidence man misses and would not understand it if he did. He relies on his partner to make him king for the hour.

The women who have concluded that a blow job accomplishes the same mission without any fuss or bother achieve the same end with half the work. However, ignoring what man wants, women need to orgasm. and if by chance were she to meet a true lover, he could understand the process and leave her no choice but to orgasm by taking down her defenses, one at a time until fear is gone and the orgasm comes. 

That first orgasm creates a mental bond between the partners which will never go away which could be either good or bad depending on the intent of the couple. However, that same woman who would work to over come her fear of orgasm, and successfully generated her orgasmic completion by her own hand, will also have ownership of her erotic mind unless she meets one very unusual male.

Enjoy the ride ladies, its your turn to smile and let no man deprive you of that pleasure by virtue of sexual abuse. Orgasm is central to your mental health. Com and enjoy 

Why Women Always Win

Unless they choose to lose in which case, they win

While it is generally understood that men have a physical advantage over the average woman, it is also well known that women while not stronger than men possess greater endurance. A great example, ask a woman to carry 10 lbs of potatoes and she will be exhausted in 5 minutes. Ask the same woman yo carry a 20 lb baby and that she can do that almost all day. Endurance vs strength levels the playing field in sex and certainly not to the advantage of men.

Men begin sex with a number of disadvantages. It is readily apparent when men are sexually excited, they are generally selfish in nature and believe their orgasm is shared by their female partner. Woman on the other hand, give few to no visible signals of their level of sexual excitement, except those which they wish to send and then proceed to give an erotic acting performance worthy of an academy award. 

Women with strong kegal muscles control the timing of their partners orgasm taking him up and down at will until they are satisfied he has had enough at which time they compress his cock forcing him to orgasm. There are however, some men whose physical strength woman can not control in which case the 20lb baby comes into play. They accept all his power for as long as he chooses to use it, until, he either \fades because of exhaustion or she permits him to organize. Women know, or learn that most men, in most sexual encounters, only care about their orgasm, not that of his partner, but she is smart enough to know a quick series of Oh God's will convince him she orgasmed as well.

For men, sex is 90% physical but for women, its just the reverse, 90% mental, which is why rare is the man who has any idea how sexually excited his partner actually may be. The only thing men need to both know and keep in mind is for women you have to seduce her mind, not her body, if you ever desire more than your your own pleasure. The mind of a woman best resembles in sex, the penis of the man.

No woman will perform for any man as long as fear of sex lies in her mind. However, that having been said, men should remember that women will never give you a clue, that you were not the greatest for she know that's what you need, and its a gift  she gives without fear of emotional attachment and without an erotic investment.Given that it is challenging these days to find any woman who has not been sexually abused or raped men should assume that before the sex must come the sense of peace that every woman requires. Her mental foreplay while different than yours is just as necessary for a healthy sexual relationship.

Otherwise men keep thinking "Im the Man" for it exists only in your mind.

There are four different broad kinds of sexual relationships which are as they are generally identified Frigid, Acting,Orgasm and Nympho. Frigid is generally a  consequence of a woman who possesses deep passion which has been compromised by fear induced by either abuse, rape or the of simple fear of the depth of her feelings. This category can also include women whose erotic fantasies conflict with religious and social norms leading them to believe, they are cursed and or doomed to hell.Eliminate her fear by seducing her mind with sufficient comfort and you will find a prize beyond understanding.

Acting is by far the biggest category which describes a woman who simply tells her partner what he or she wants to hear which leaves the partner happy and her unsatisfied either because she chooses not to permit the moment to rise to the level of her mind or she is engaging in sport fucking.

Orgasm is the product of the absence of fear and a sense of comfort with her partner.

Nympho bears a great resemblance to Frigid  as they are flip sides of the same coin. The nympho does not orgasm because fear blocks the synapses to her mind which is generally a product of abuse or rape. Seduce her mind, give her a reason to trust such that you eliminate her fear and again you find a great reward. The nympho is usually like frigid in that they both possess deep passion, locked in fear, and or erotic fantasies that run afoul of social or religious norms.The development of the internet, and the ability to share thoughts and fears, has done a great deal to help women confused by their erotic fantasies because they discover, they are not alone. 

Nature gave to women, the ability to orgasm as a release of their emotional pent up mental energy, the same kind that lets her care for her family and children with what often appears to resemble unlimited energy. Absent that release of pent up energy the pressing mental pressure of the unreleased energy often finds its way to food,alcohol and or substance abuse  finally leading to depression in an attempt to dull the power of their pent up energy. 

Thew standard treatment for depression is medication which dulls the mind. A simpler solution is to seduce her mind and set her mind free to orgasm. Failing that, frequent aerobic exercise can release the pent up energy which is why one often sees women who can exercise with a power of energy men can not match. These women tend to be height and weight proportional and i dare any man to match their workout routines.

Many women who experience fear  or pain during intercourse will remark, i was never abused or raped, so why is intercourse painful for me. For most of those women for whom there is no physical structural issue, the answer is PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. PTSD is seen in women who have suffered  abuse or rape inducing sufficient fear that the mind simply blocks out any conscientious memory of the event, by turning off the nerve synapses from the affected area to the brain, as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, it is those idential nerve synapses which must be switched back on, for the pleasure to replace the pain.  

Hypnosis and finding holes in her memory are often useful. Most children have some memory beginning at age 3, a few earlier, but if her earliest memory is 8 or 9 , and or chunks of time unaccounted for, PTSD is a very good bet. Often but not always, when in a relaxed state of mind, the woman will remember some or all of the event. While it is good to remember, sufficient trust in your partner can achieve the same results. The frequency of PTSD in women who suffer vaginal pain during intercourse based on my experience is far higher than one might imagine, some place in the range of 40 to 60%

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