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I'm a Woman Why Can't I Orgasm

A woman's erotic pleasure and ability to orgasm is dependent on the absence of fear which is generally a result to what she experienced before her first consensual sex act, either through innocent play, abuse in all its many forms and or rape. 

Some women accidentally are victims  of their own hand by unintentionally causing their first orgasm, the power of which may include the loss of mental and physical control, leading to a shock to the mind causing the nerve sensors to essentially turn off so that future nerve impulses are read by the mind as pain and stopped immediately.

What occurs in self abuse above is essentially the same as what occurs in physical abuse, sexual abuse and or rape. In many of these cases, the abusers makes perfectly clear to the victim, that the abuse was her fault because "she made me do it." In far too many cases, the abuse generates a traumatic shock to the brain of such magnitude that the brain erases the memory of the event, and treats any further stimulation as pain. This result is commonalty known as "Post Traumatic Shock Disorder" (PTSD).

Some forms of abuse can become addictive and are passed down from family to family, and cause the abused to only seek abusive partners since they equate abuse with love. No matter how the woman arrived at the point where pleasure registered as pain, in most cases, it is reversible provided the fear is addressed before it becomes embedded in her mind. That condition will require professional help.

If you experience pain during sex, can never get enough sex, or find yourself ending sex because you find yourself on the verge of losing control then in some cases, you can self correct the problem by talking it out with your partner to the extent he understands and most of all, you trust him to take care of you, as your first real orgasm can be a very scary ride.

Female orgasms are much more important than the male variety because they release excess energy generated by their hormones to permit them to perform their role of mother, wife and worker, which energy is far greater than that created by the male hormone. Nature provided the female orgasm as a release for unspent energy, much like a pressure cooker.

Failure to release built up pent up energy is not good for woman's mental health as i believe it is principally responsible for addictions to food, alcohol and drugs, ending in depression and or migraines each of which is predominantly a female issue rarely observed in men.

Gentlemen, if you love her, make her trust you as the quality of her life and your relationship depends on putting her needs first. Sport fucking is not a healthy alternative for a woman who can not orgasm.

What Men Know that Women Do Not

Men enjoy one tremendous advantage which woman do not, they know how to cum, and demand their partner address their need first. However, once mans need is addressed, its game set match point, in other words, man is finished. While basking in the glow of his triumph, the thought rarely enters his mind that your pleasure does not match his, and is often heard to day, how great it was, never dreaming, she has no idea what he means.

The creator had a sense of humor  when he created mans penis to grow outward while woman's vagina grew inward. Therefore, it is crystal clear when man mind is totally invested in preparation for sex,  Women on the other hand do not demonstrate such clear visual symbols, and even when they do they still beg the question, how much is she ready. 

Unlike man, each and every woman's preparation is different and can be impacted by so many different outside forces. There is no substitute for knowing your female partner if your intentions are a relationship larger than the moment. Assuming your partner is one of the very few women who have never been abused physically and or mentally, your best guide to her level of preparation is enlarged nipples, clit and significant lubrication. The presence of these signals only means she is ready for intercourse, but not necessary ready for orgasm.

A man who cared about his partner, would invest whatever traditional time was required in whatever means necessary to bring her to orgasm. Orgasm, not being defined by what she say's but by a complete lack of muscle control and uncontrollable body movements. The little additional investment in her pleasure will make a significant difference in your enjoyment as the shyeer view of most womens real orgasm will ignite an almost immediate response in her partner.

Men need to keep in mind, rare is the woman who does not fake her orgasm, one because she knows you do not care as long as you get what you want and two the orgasm might lead to an unintended investment in you, her partner.

 

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Equal Orgasm  Rights for Women

The struggle for equal rights for women in the work place has made significant enhancements to the financial resources of women. While not equal as we speak, its slowly moving along. This historic agenda as great as it was ignored two fundamental issues important to women.

The first, clearly obvious is women are not men, do not think like men even as they reach the identical conclusions as a man.  Too many women got the impression that equal rights for women meant they had to be like men to succeed. Emotionally, far too many women paid a stiff price for that choice as they entered their 40's and suddenly realized, something was missing, children and or a sense of family.

In the bedroom however, perhaps the only real change was women were no longer inclined to fore go sex until marriage, and many have chosen to live with their partners without marriage, Equal rights in the work place seemed to translate into equal rights in the bedroom of did it.

Women process energy differently than do men and therefore need to achieve orgasm on a regular basis to maintain sound emotional health. The energy which women derive from their sex hormones while different than that of a man, is also more intense and measured where family responsibilities are concerned. Men on the other hand while stronger than women tend to not have the endurance which women enjoy over the long haul.

In the bedroom, men seem to believe they are king, and therefore deserve to use their woman and roll over to sleep, with the satisfaction that their women is satisfied because her man is pleased. All women know, that is not true, yet virtually all are afraid to admit that to their partners, for fear of treading on the fragile male ego.

Sexual satisfaction for women is far more complex than man and requires a partner who understands her needs, First of all, female orgasm is complicated by a basket of fears beginning with social religious constructs, bullying and by abuse and or rape  some of which she may not remember due to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), so if your partner wants and desires a healthy sex life, then sex does not begin in the bed room, rather at the kitchen table where fear can be put on the table and understood. 

Sex is all between the ears and if that is not successful, there will be no transmission between her legs other than to make you believe there was. Therefore, understanding any and all issues which might impact her sexual pleasure should be talked about asap. Any woman who tells you sex is painful, or she can not get enough are both signs of hidden issues, most of which can be resolved with patience and trust.

Having reached an understanding of her history, it becomes the responsibility of the male partner to gain her confidence  to a level of trust sufficient to permit her mind to enjoy the erotic experience. Recognizing, this is not always easy to achieve, it is still necessary for both her mental health and the relationship. The male must understand it is his responsibility to  bring her to orgasm, and her pleasure must always come first.  Once she is satisfied his need can be completed in a very short period of time.

Nature created the orgasm in women, not because they were responsible for reproduction, but as a natural mechanism to release the excess energy otherwise unused. To the extent that energy is not discharged frequently, it builds tension sufficient to create a host of mental problems such as over eating drugs alcohol depression and or migraine,. issues that rarely impact men.  

Therefore men, if you care about your partner, treat her first, and women if you care about yourself, insist you get treated first. Men, make certain her orgasm is real and not fake, and women the only person you hurt when you fake an orgasm, is yourself. Finally, men, learn the difference between real and fake. real has a loss of muscle control someplace on her body.

Finally men, we understand you are selfish by nature, but this is one time, when you can actually win by losing as a real orgasm is one of natures real pleasures to enjoy and she will thank you in ways you have yet to experience.