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Religion Sex & Women

The Essence of Absolute Power

 

Women of the world are best defined by who and what they are not, rather than who they really are. They are taught from cradle to grave that each is alike in the same fashion as cookie cutters, yet we know there is no such thing as  normal where women are concerned. Each and every woman enjoys dark thoughts, yet almost none dare give light to their darkness for fear of being labeled an outcast witch or mentally deranged. Religion and society, have painted a picture of womanhood designed to serve a purpose of domination and control.

 

The picture of womanhood so artfully painted into the mind of each woman as they grow into womanhood defines a person who is made to believe in the inherit weakness of their sex, and cements a natural submissive mind into a weak and fearless person. How is woman to celebrate herself when all that defines her from cradle to grave causes great shame and fear, having to live a life that does not reflect who she really is inside.

 

The reality of womanhood, when all the layers of control are removed displays a person who enjoys a sense of intellect, strength of character, passion and giving, which  arises from their natural role of care givers to all. As a consequence woman lives a double life, one which society requires and one who she was born to be. Her sense of passion drives the erotic needs of women to a point women fear and society refuses to recognize. Therefore, woman has learned to hide and guard, her erotic passion as if it represented all the gold in Fort Knox, for failure to do so, is to lay bare her passion with a total lack of control.

 

Like men, women require a total erotic mind commitment to achieve a real orgasm, something almost no woman ever achieves, because surrender, defines her weak spot, releasing a tenderness she is powerless to control. Therefore, women have learned to give to men, only that which is necessary and not a single drop more.She has learned to use mans sense of power to her advantage by being the instrument of his pleasure by any means necessary without making or taking a substantial erotic risk of her own. Woman has learned that management of men's sex requirements are simple no matter the delivery method, and that man has no idea he is being used as her sexual pawn in a game in which she has limited erotic investment

 

Not submitting her erotic mind to her partner yields greater power for woman than man, in his best moments, can aspire too. Of course, this game women play can also be turned against them, if they are lucky enough to meet the person, male or female, who can pierce their protected inner core of passion and thereby take control of her mind. However, for most women, this is a fairy tale that never comes true. The amount of trust necessary to give rise to a total erotic release is more often than not compromised by abuse thus creating a sense of erotic trust beyond understanding or attainment.

 

Men, on the other hand, like to define themselves by their notion of power especially when it provides dominance over less power hungry men or women. Men believe the mind of woman, though strange from time to time, operates exactly as does theirs and has the same or similar erotic needs and desires as that which pleases man. In so much  as man is both one dimensional and self centered, he presents an easy target for woman to control, without making an erotic investment in either the man or the relationship.

 

Man is sexually disadvantaged in sex in so much as he requires a full erection to achieve orgasm, and to achieve that erection, requires his total erotic commitment without exception. Man hunts sex like a predator seeking erotic pleasure in any form that creates "his orgasm", without consideration of the erotic needs of his partner.  Man has no idea that his female partner is almost always faking her erotic pleasure, to please her partner and to retain control of her erotic emotions. Mans physical power is offset by his need to always be in pursuit of eroticism.

 

When you consider the balance of power between men and women, Strength vs Sex, the rational of eastern religious leaders does not sound so dumb speaking from the males prospective. for man to preserve his illusion of power, women must be tightly controlled, denied access to education, opportunities and association with people or intuitions who promote sexual freedom and opportunity.

 

A recent quote from a eastern religious leader "women must remain covered so as not to tempt the men into their sexual charms" flies in the face of reality. Restrain the women so as not to taint the morals of otherwise good religious men. Recent statements in the US from mega church leaders promote a similar concept that women are by nature inferior to man and should be available to man as man so pleases. Therefore, men are groomed to believe they are lord of all they survey, and use that sense of power to take what they want, without realizing as they take, they lose control of that which they believed was beneath them.

 

Part of the way women deal with their passion is to deny themselves, that which they need if favor of that which they want. Full filling wants does not risk emotional attachment, but full filling needs drives passion to the core of her being. To reach the core, one must pass trust, and that is a journey few men ever get to enjoy.

 

It is amusing to this writer, that while most women are treated involuntarily as property it is the slave, who at the end of the day, through the manipulation of mans need for sex and ego, expressed in his own sense of self, who can usually get what they want and or desire, However, nothing comes with out a price, and in the case of women, denial of a real orgasm, creates mental in balances between passion and need, that almost always express themselves sooner or later in addictive food, drink and or drugs on the path to depression.

 

Religion has been used as an enhancement to male power, but the question begs to be answered, does male power trump female power, especially when viewed in the light of the intellectual, and emotional edge women enjoy over men. It gives new meaning to the phrase  "Toping from the Bottom"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



 

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Why Beauty Is Not Always A

Girls Best Friend 

 Ever wonder why so many women who do not appear to be really attractive wind up with some of the best looking men, while those who are stunning beauties linger into their 30's alone. Many beautiful women depend solely on their beauty to attract men, and in many cases withhold their best personal gifts seeking only a man who is their equal in beauty. This is often, a case of the blind leading the blind.

 

Women who do not perceive themselves as beauties, resort to using their erotic skills in a way beautiful women never feel the need to do. These women have learned two simple tricks. Man is basically selfish and only cares about his pleasure, and two, over 80% of both males and females measure women solely by the size of their breasts.

 

Since most men are selfish, and or believe when given a blow job, the woman achieves orgasm as well, man is perfectly happy with anyone who attends to his cock as if it were a god. Blow him in the morning, and again at night, toss in a bit of missionary sex and you have a happy camper. This of course begs the question, what about the woman's pleasure. Those who orgasm from a flow job might be content, but those who do not, who knows, but they own their man.

 

Many women perceive male ownership at any cost their lifes goal.Large breast are a commodity adored by both sexes, achievable by nature, surgery or even excessive weight gain. Show a man big tits, no matter if they are hard as a rock and have zero feeling, and he becomes a happy little boy, nursing at his mothers breast. Throw in a blow job to compliment the big breasts and he will have died and gone to heaven.

 

In short, breasts and blow jobs are the way to the heart of most men, when beauty is not your best friend. Those women who are stuck up on their beauty, might have a thing or two to learn from their less fortunate female friends.  

 

 

 

 

 

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Is Girl Power Worth The Cost

Most studies of female sexuality have concluded that real orgasms in women are rare, even in female to female relationships for two reasons, Trust and Control. They have concluded that since most women fake their orgasms, therefore few men have any idea what a real orgasm looks or feels like, therefore making men believe they are the super stud with a faked orgasm . This is the secret power women have used for year, like a fighter, taking mans best erotic punch and walking away. Do men actually believe all women live to give him a blow job on demand of is delighted to let him orgasm on the face, body and clothes, actually, yes most do. Yet each and every time girl power takes all man has to offer, yet gives not from her store house of passion., she loses a little bit of herself. . We men are such simple minded creatures. 

It has worked so well for hundreds of years, why change it now. Excellent question, yet the answer is simple. Life today is compressed in units of time and with such complexity that what worked yesterday like newspapers, tube television, etc, is no longer relevant to this moment in time. While the changes in time has little it any effect on most men since sex seldom caused them to invest their free mind, it has catastrophic effects on the erotic mind of woman, filling her head with the pressure of unreleased passion with more arriving each and every morning that soon alcohol, drugs, food and anxiety become her best friends. A recent book, bad as it was, "Fifty Shades of Gray" , is a reflection of woman's search for more, a book that would have been banned a few short years ago, has been embraced by all levels of society. Women are looking for answers, The book, reversed the characters abuse and erotic needs to make the book more appealing to a broader audience.

One should not feel sorry for men because it is their selfish sexual attitude that helped to create this problem in the first place aided and abetted by their best friends, religion and power. Secondarily, the problem is also enhanced by who else, mother nature. In order for either sex to reach a true orgasm, their erotic mind must be totally engaged in their partner. In the case of a man, this engagement is easy to confirm because without it, there can be no erection. Now in the case of his female partner, there is no unassailable signal, the the mind is totally engaged in her partner. Given even her desire to engage, little things like sexual abuse, fear and trust keep clogging up the engagement pipeline, Finally, in the case of a woman, most believe if they were to permit a total release of their erotic passion, all control of the relationship would pass from her to him.

Now men on the other hand, once erect, naturally assume, their partner is as engaged as he is and plows straight ahead. What happens thereafter are different variations of sport fucking with the female in total control of the process because all the male wants is an orgasm, and the knowledge that he is a more superior sexual being than all other men on the universe, which the female is more than happy to provide, by producing what i like to call, an orgasm on demand. Since most men have never seen a real one, the fake one more than does the trick

Now in every confrontation, there is a risk and a reward. for women the risk is faking the orgasm because the erotic energy that would have been released never leaves her mind and body. Without that release anxiety and depression, become her best friends. Therefore, a delicate balance is created between the need to release erotic tension and the ability of a free mind to orgasm without total loss of control. 

Masturbation and exercise provides some relief for most women, but even in the privacy of her own space, and to the extent all the ghosts of yesterday, fear, abuse and control, still are alive and well in her mind, a total release is still not possible. Meantime, her male partner is a happy camper knowing he is king of her erotic world, hh ha, while she lies quietly in her bed, lost and alone even in his presence, for most men, make no effort to return in any wat to their partner the pleasure and release that was given to them.

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The Female Orgasm

Or Lack Thereof

Ever wonder why so many women admit they are never sexually satisfied not by verbal admission, but by seeking more and more sex partners and or gang bangs. Sexual relief is not achieved no matter how many partners they have,  how big the cock or how long they are fucked, the elusive "O" never seems to happen.  Yet they will tell their partners how great they were and god yes did i cum hard stud, u are the man. Many women have been faking orgasms for so long it has become an automatic reflex

There is a fear among many women to admit to themselves, their partners or husbands, that the big "O" simply did not happen for fear they will be branded as being frigid.  These women suffer in silence convinced they are the problem. Studies of human sexuality have suggested only 15-20% of all women ever achieve a real orgasm. This writer believes the real number is much lower.

Orgasms,  contrary to popular wisdom, in both men and women, do not depend on cock size, breast or ass size, color or the  physical body of the male or female partner. Orgasm's depend almost entirely on the degree in which the mind is sexually and erotically stimulated. Therefore, it is important that the stimulation of the woman comes before that of the male, which is just the reverse of how sex usually occurs.

Man, in order to obtain an erection, must have his mind stimulated to produce the same volume of blood flow to his cock as is the volume required for a woman to orgasm. Far too often, once the male erection is achieved, sex begins, without the female beings mentally stimulated to the same extent as her male partner. 

When the male reaches orgasm, minutes later, the female is just warming up, but for her, it is suddenly over. The males, seeking validation for his ego often will ask "honey, wasn't that great"  and she of course flatters the male ego and say's "yes" it was the best, wondering "really" in silence. 

Often she uses digital stimulation to get some pleasure as soon as her partner  goes to sleep or leaves the room. It is interesting to note, many males refuse to permit their partners to use toys of any kind after sex because the use of such toys offends the male sense of male ego

Big problem, simple solution. Women, insist that your male partners erotically and mentally stimulate your mind to the point that  you are lubricated and your clit is hard and sensitive in much the same fashion as the male cock, and then and only then turn your attention to the males stimulation. Any males, who demands to be first should cause you to demand they go home :-).

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Definition of Woman

Women are beyond question the strongest and most intelligent member of the sexes so why then do they submit to men and why do they view themselves in a frame inconsistent with their reality. 

Women most women that is, define themselves by the size of their breasts instead of the size of their minds. it matter not, what role a woman plays, be it dominate or submissive, her mind is the core of who she is and who she is not. 

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Master or Mistress

Does Sex Really Matter

The answer depends on the nature of the relationship the slave seeks. A slave interested in a pure slave relationship is only concerned about service and therefore the only thing which should be important to the slave is the mind connection between the slave and the dominant and the extend each is interested in addressing each others needs.

On the other hand, a slave seeking either a male or female only master is more interested in a sex relationship with a bit of kink thrown in for god measure. Friends with benefits limited to their sex of choice is essentially a vanilla relationship more related to sport fucking than it is to d/s. 

You may ask, how can you conclude this to be so. for two reasons, raw naked passion does not know gender. raw naked passion can be challenged by abuse and fear but in its pure form, passion always rises to the level of opportunity.

The second reason is related to the nature of slavery in and of itself. A real slave is driven by service, a driving need to please another, to do what ever is required to bring the slaves, dominant pleasure, for the sheer joy of the gift and without expectation of return. Where you notice a slave who wishes to limit the choices of the dominant as in only me, is by definition not a slave as the slave wishes to define her master not the other way around.

Much of what passes for d/s relationships are really vanilla taken to a slightly higher level of kink and in most cases, the slave is topping from the bottom. Relationship based solely of physical abuse absent any emotional attachment by both parties is an extension of a mental defect or childhood abuse where love is confused with pain and love in and of itself, can never be the basis of trust or respect.

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Energy = Fuel+Passion+Aggression

The human body requires energy to power the brain and the heart, the combination of which provide nutriments by way of veins nerves and arteries to the total body making motion and thought possible.

Once the energy requirements of the body have been satisfied, the energy remaining is available for use as either passion or aggression.

The distribution of passion and aggression in each person is a function of their harmones and gene pool and not necessarily their sex, and more important, the ratio of each differs from man to man and woman to woman. Genes and gens alone associated with their harmones,define the ratio of each in each person.

While a woman typically has more passion than aggression and a man typically has more aggression than passion, one can often find the exact reverse in some combination, again based solely upon their genes and associated harmones

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Energy=Fuel+Passion+Power

Energy is provided to the human body in the form of food broken down into its many components to provide the fuel necessary to operate the brain, nerves, heart and associated internal organs required for motion and thought.

Passion defines depth of feeling for both individuals and causes of all kinds, while power defines brut strength and aggressiveness, each of which, passion and power, exist in all people relative to their sex hormones and genes. 

The amount of energy that remains, after all provisions for fuel have been satisfied, are then available to the brain to distribute based upon the genes and hormones of each individual. Given that no two people except identical twins etc, have the same gene and hormone pool, the distribution of the remaining energy varies from individual to individual with each person getting some of each power and passion differing only in the percentage of each.

Typically, women get more passion and less power and men more power and less passion but the percentages of power to passion and passion to power can vary widely from woman to woman and man to man. 

The amount of power relative to the amount of passion typically defines an aggressive dominant male or woman while the amount of passion relative to the amount of power typically defines a submissive female or submissive male.

It is not unusual for these ratio's to be reversed making the male the submissive and the woman the dominant. 

What is important however is that the amount of passion or power varies widely from person to person woman to woman and man to man, therefore , there is no such definition of normal with respect to passion and power in either males or females.

Hormones levels in both male and females define variations and combinations of  both passion and power

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Passion the Root of Religion

 

Passion Defered

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When a woman of any age who is blessed with great passion, has no outlet for that passion, the passion behaves much like a pressure cooker, with the pressure in her mind building each and every day until something gives in her mind producing either an erotic action or an application of pain to dull the pressure of the passion pressure.

In the case of adolescences, this will usually manifest itself in antisocial behavior or and application of pain which will dull the pressure of the passion. Often this is expressed as cutting, sexual acts and or other social mall adjustment. It can also result in panic attacks when there is no other form of pressure relief.

In adults, the pressure cooker operates much the same as it does in adolescences  except adults have more choices. However, in the final analysis, theri fate is not much better than the younger women because aduts believe sex can relieve their pent up passion but given that so few women ever experience a real orgasm, sex most often makes the problem worse and not better. 

However, in both cases, there is a simple solution, aerobic exercise, the kind that gets yoru heart rate up to 120 bpm for at least 60 minutes per day. Of course one can elect a drug regimen which will dulling the passion will turn their mind into a dull waste land. Both young or old women will suffer simular issues from passion including application of pain to dull passion and or panic attacks or both