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Does Sex Really Matter

The answer depends on the nature of the relationship the slave seeks. A slave interested in a pure slave relationship is only concerned about service and therefore the only thing which should be important to the slave is the mind connection between the slave and the dominant and the extend each is interested in addressing each others needs.

On the other hand, a slave seeking either a male or female only master is more interested in a sex relationship with a bit of kink thrown in for god measure. Friends with benefits limited to their sex of choice is essentially a vanilla relationship more related to sport fucking than it is to d/s. 

You may ask, how can you conclude this to be so. for two reasons, raw naked passion does not know gender. raw naked passion can be challenged by abuse and fear but in its pure form, passion always rises to the level of opportunity.

The second reason is related to the nature of slavery in and of itself. A real slave is driven by service, a driving need to please another, to do what ever is required to bring the slaves, dominant pleasure, for the sheer joy of the gift and without expectation of return. Where you notice a slave who wishes to limit the choices of the dominant as in only me, is by definition not a slave as the slave wishes to define her master not the other way around.

Much of what passes for d/s relationships are really vanilla taken to a slightly higher level of kink and in most cases, the slave is topping from the bottom. Relationship based solely of physical abuse absent any emotional attachment by both parties is an extension of a mental defect or childhood abuse where love is confused with pain and love in and of itself, can never be the basis of trust or respect.