Domination & Submission, What does it really mean

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Two central themes are at the heart of d/s, the first being the need for control and the second , the sense of belonging when one feels out of step with what is so called "Normal". After that, there are as many variations of d/s as grains of sand on the beach, so the essence of any prospective submissive person is to identify Masters whose interests match their real needs.

This Masters sense of d/s is intellectually based, and requires total mind control, a fierce desire to please others, and an unselfish commitment to giving, without expectation of return. However, for this to be successful, trust must first be established and all fear in the mind of the slave released. The degree of success of the master slave relationship are directly dependant upon the success of the trust/fear solution.

Desire and control tend to be relatively simple to achieve, however, unselfish giving proves to be the stumbling bock for many who are seeking a kind of love that requires that they be given too, in exchange for the giving.

The pure definition of real love, is the ability to give without expectation of return. That definition is valid for all life styles. However, selfishness, taught from the cradle to the grave is responsible for most unsuccessful relations. Selfishness, is a by product of absence of trust which is generally absent in vanilla but is supposed to be the corner stone of d/s. That however is rare in both vanilla and d/s, but those of us who are purest, always strive to get the very best and unselfish giving is as good as it gets.

Are Women more Submissive than Men

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Actually, most people like to be controlled, reference the number of organized groups for both men and women. I believe both sex's need control equally, but women tend to be more honest about their need for control than men. Women are often compromised by their passion to seek control while men are embarrassed by their need to be macho to admit what they need. In the hands of the right master, either sex can be essentially gender neutral

Who Needs Sex More, Men or Women

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For men, sex is recreational playtime which is why men can be so indiscriminate in their choice of partners and their slam bamg thank u mame approach to sex. Women on the other hand are captives to their sexuality for that experessed as passion guides their every action and colors their every thought. Therefore, sexual tension, to some extent, is always present and always seeking release insome form or another. Unfortunately, fear, learned from birth ofter color and restricts a womans ability to absorb all of her passion into all the diciplines of her life. Consequently, learning how to control passion for use in her total lifes work, is therefore vital to a woman and her suxuality therefore becomes far more important to her than that ofa man. Whie women need sexual activity on many different levels, it is rare that that is achieved sine women are reluctant to discuss their real erotic needs for fear of being labeled by men and men most of the time, simply have no interest thinkg women need be more liek them :-))

The sad truth however is that while women need sex more than men, they get far less than men becuause of the many social conventions which control thier mind and create fear to simply be who they are, not what they were made to be.

Then What is Abnormal

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Abnormal, is the a state of existance when one has denied being their natural self, in order to conform to anothers so called idea of a normal state. Since there is no such thing as a normal state, outside of ones own existance, any beings who is existing using standards set by another is said to be in an abnormal state. This will of course include all people who conform to social order groups like religion, clubs, lifestyles, etc where normal is a defined or understood term. even the entire argument about abortion is fundemantally about control of woman, no matter which side fo the discussion you find yourself leaning on.