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The Female Orgasm

Or Lack Thereof

Ever wonder why so many women admit they are never sexually satisfied not by verbal admission, but by seeking more and more sex partners and or gang bangs. Sexual relief is not achieved no matter how many partners they have,  how big the cock or how long they are fucked, the elusive "O" never seems to happen.  Yet they will tell their partners how great they were and god yes did i cum hard stud, u are the man. Many women have been faking orgasms for so long it has become an automatic reflex

There is a fear among many women to admit to themselves, their partners or husbands, that the big "O" simply did not happen for fear they will be branded as being frigid.  These women suffer in silence convinced they are the problem. Studies of human sexuality have suggested only 15-20% of all women ever achieve a real orgasm. This writer believes the real number is much lower.

Orgasms,  contrary to popular wisdom, in both men and women, do not depend on cock size, breast or ass size, color or the  physical body of the male or female partner. Orgasm's depend almost entirely on the degree in which the mind is sexually and erotically stimulated. Therefore, it is important that the stimulation of the woman comes before that of the male, which is just the reverse of how sex usually occurs.

Man, in order to obtain an erection, must have his mind stimulated to produce the same volume of blood flow to his cock as is the volume required for a woman to orgasm. Far too often, once the male erection is achieved, sex begins, without the female beings mentally stimulated to the same extent as her male partner. 

When the male reaches orgasm, minutes later, the female is just warming up, but for her, it is suddenly over. The males, seeking validation for his ego often will ask "honey, wasn't that great"  and she of course flatters the male ego and say's "yes" it was the best, wondering "really" in silence. 

Often she uses digital stimulation to get some pleasure as soon as her partner  goes to sleep or leaves the room. It is interesting to note, many males refuse to permit their partners to use toys of any kind after sex because the use of such toys offends the male sense of male ego

Big problem, simple solution. Women, insist that your male partners erotically and mentally stimulate your mind to the point that  you are lubricated and your clit is hard and sensitive in much the same fashion as the male cock, and then and only then turn your attention to the males stimulation. Any males, who demands to be first should cause you to demand they go home :-).

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Definition of Woman

Women are beyond question the strongest and most intelligent member of the sexes so why then do they submit to men and why do they view themselves in a frame inconsistent with their reality. 

Women most women that is, define themselves by the size of their breasts instead of the size of their minds. it matter not, what role a woman plays, be it dominate or submissive, her mind is the core of who she is and who she is not. 

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Master or Mistress

Does Sex Really Matter

The answer depends on the nature of the relationship the slave seeks. A slave interested in a pure slave relationship is only concerned about service and therefore the only thing which should be important to the slave is the mind connection between the slave and the dominant and the extend each is interested in addressing each others needs.

On the other hand, a slave seeking either a male or female only master is more interested in a sex relationship with a bit of kink thrown in for god measure. Friends with benefits limited to their sex of choice is essentially a vanilla relationship more related to sport fucking than it is to d/s. 

You may ask, how can you conclude this to be so. for two reasons, raw naked passion does not know gender. raw naked passion can be challenged by abuse and fear but in its pure form, passion always rises to the level of opportunity.

The second reason is related to the nature of slavery in and of itself. A real slave is driven by service, a driving need to please another, to do what ever is required to bring the slaves, dominant pleasure, for the sheer joy of the gift and without expectation of return. Where you notice a slave who wishes to limit the choices of the dominant as in only me, is by definition not a slave as the slave wishes to define her master not the other way around.

Much of what passes for d/s relationships are really vanilla taken to a slightly higher level of kink and in most cases, the slave is topping from the bottom. Relationship based solely of physical abuse absent any emotional attachment by both parties is an extension of a mental defect or childhood abuse where love is confused with pain and love in and of itself, can never be the basis of trust or respect.

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Energy = Fuel+Passion+Aggression

The human body requires energy to power the brain and the heart, the combination of which provide nutriments by way of veins nerves and arteries to the total body making motion and thought possible.

Once the energy requirements of the body have been satisfied, the energy remaining is available for use as either passion or aggression.

The distribution of passion and aggression in each person is a function of their harmones and gene pool and not necessarily their sex, and more important, the ratio of each differs from man to man and woman to woman. Genes and gens alone associated with their harmones,define the ratio of each in each person.

While a woman typically has more passion than aggression and a man typically has more aggression than passion, one can often find the exact reverse in some combination, again based solely upon their genes and associated harmones

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Energy=Fuel+Passion+Power

Energy is provided to the human body in the form of food broken down into its many components to provide the fuel necessary to operate the brain, nerves, heart and associated internal organs required for motion and thought.

Passion defines depth of feeling for both individuals and causes of all kinds, while power defines brut strength and aggressiveness, each of which, passion and power, exist in all people relative to their sex hormones and genes. 

The amount of energy that remains, after all provisions for fuel have been satisfied, are then available to the brain to distribute based upon the genes and hormones of each individual. Given that no two people except identical twins etc, have the same gene and hormone pool, the distribution of the remaining energy varies from individual to individual with each person getting some of each power and passion differing only in the percentage of each.

Typically, women get more passion and less power and men more power and less passion but the percentages of power to passion and passion to power can vary widely from woman to woman and man to man. 

The amount of power relative to the amount of passion typically defines an aggressive dominant male or woman while the amount of passion relative to the amount of power typically defines a submissive female or submissive male.

It is not unusual for these ratio's to be reversed making the male the submissive and the woman the dominant. 

What is important however is that the amount of passion or power varies widely from person to person woman to woman and man to man, therefore , there is no such definition of normal with respect to passion and power in either males or females.

Hormones levels in both male and females define variations and combinations of  both passion and power