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Control, such as in denial of erotic pleasure is usually a consequence of mental trauma occasioned by an act of sufficient violence or fear, to cause the mind to subdivide into the strong and the weak. Once that occurs, pleasure and the capacity to love is greatly diminished until such time as the strong and the weak are reunited.
Many women, who suffer from control issues, are not aware of its existence, but feel an emptiness inside often leading to depression, over eating, drugs and alcohol. Usually, they will place the blame of a failed relationship on their partner, and almost never, themselves because the strong are never at fault. The more intelligent the woman, the stronger will be the control.
The first step in blending the two or more personalities together is recognition that they exist. Once you realize they exist, you can become aware when the strong tries to block the weak. Finding a friend, male or female who is willing to help you identify the conflicts as they occur will be highly useful in resolving the divide between the two.
Once the personalities are blended together, and no other source of fear or control is present, the change in erotic intensity and pleasure is almost instantaneous.