Pregnancy, 101

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Every wonder why, so many young women, get pregnant the very first time they have sex. Ever ask yourself, when and why do i get pregnant. These are questions, i am discovering few if anyone really understands, so i thought it worth the time to share the answer that might make life for some simpler.

Generally speaking, women ovulate in the middle of their cycle, with the cycle usually but not always consisting of approximately 28days, ovulation should occur on or about the 14th day. Some women can feel their ovulation occurring, most can not. The period during which a woman can get pregnant is therefore 48 hours before and after ovulation or days 12 to 16 of the cycle.

Given that the egg is usually only viable for 24 hours, the sperm however is viable for 48 hours so within that 4 day period, almost any thing can happen. Now back to why so many women get pregnant on their first sex experience, the day of ovulation is also the day when a woman most needs to have sex and has less will power to say no.

There are however, a large number of women whose periods are not regular in either cycle days of month and for them, absent feeling ovulation, no such safe period exists except during the menstrual cycle itself, a point in time mot wish to avoid sex altogether, but also a time when many women find their need to have sex greatly enhanced.

Harmones, A Delicate Balance of Gender

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So many people, both female and male fear their personalities for the simple reason they are submissive by operation of birth and therefore believe by definition, that submissive trait renders them weak and afraid. Consequently, they spend much of their life doing their best to hide their submissive side, living for the most part in object misery, playing a role that is not who they are, until, one day, their submissive reality comes face to face with real life in such a moment that they can no longer deny their submissive birth

While gender is a hormone based concept, both men and women share differing amounts of both male and female hormones. More people are naturally submissive than are dominant so therefore many men have an in balance of estrogen relative to testosterone Consequently, it is not unusual for a woman with normal estrogen levels to be attracted to a male with high estrogen levels because she is seeking a man of greater sensitivity. Often however, that same woman is disappointed when the males does not demonstrate the dominant traits so often considered normal for men.

Persons, generally male but occasionally female who have an in balance of testosterone relative to estrogen are almost always dominant in nature and possess few if any nurturing qualities. This person is not the hands on child rearing type, especially in their younger years.

Hormones do not lie, know what you are and what you need, so at the end of the day, there are no surprises.

SPORT FUCKING

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Sport Fucking

What is Sport Fucking:

Sport fucking is the act of having sex for the sheer physical exercise and a need to feel connected but with little or no mental participation by either partner. It will use physical energy to exhaustion, but will add to erotic mental frustration, especially in the female partner.

What is the alternative to Sport Fucking :

Passion, the principal ingredient in eroticism is totally mind based, and requires the application of all senses expressed in the absence of fear, to achieve a true erotic release. Erotic releases, are seldom realized especially in women, because fear, accessioned by a variety of sources including incest, abuse, rape and a sense of darkness rendering a sensation of abnormal thoughts, collectively and separately, conspire to create fear. Fear and passion, live in the same space in the brain, so to give life to one, you must rid your mind of the other. Men in general, while having simular passionate architecture as women generally do not share the kind of fear that is assoc9iiated with being a woman and therefore for males, sex generally is all the same except in thoses instances where intense emotional feeling exist on the part of the male.

Why is this important:

Most men, never realize a significant difference, but for women, each time, her release of passion is denied by the presence of fear, that release is added to her existing supply of erotic frustration, or passion surplus. As time compounds her passion surplus, it is akin to a balloon, slowly being filled with air to the point that the walls, having been stretched beyond their capacity, simply burst, and an emotional disaster occurs, generally defined by society as depression. Except in those cases where a chemical in-balance exists, the failure to release pent up passion is the leading cause of depression in women.

Is there a solution:

Yes, find a partner that you both like and trust, and for that moment, when you share eroticism, give fear a holiday, and let your mind be free to simply exist as it was born to be. Your partner might think he is the worlds greatest lover because of the response your love making created, yet for you, its a chance to do just what the men so, have sex, without the baggage of being woman. Never confuse a free erotic release with love, as u well know, men certainly never do. Besides, most women are so good at faking orgasms, chances are, your partner, male or female, will not know the difference.

Its play time, go get it :-), leave the fear at the door. you only live once so don't let the cause of the fear control your life ever again.

SPORT FUCKING

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Dominant vs Master

Is there, or if so what is, the difference between a Dominate man or woman and a Master. The answer is simple. A Dominate will command your body to obey, and you may or may not respond.

A Master will command your mind to yield to his or her will, and your body will obey without question.

It is for that reason, only time and experience can produce a Master, while birth alone can produce a Dominate.

Each slave must decide the depth of the commitment she needs to complete her service, and which type, Dominate or Master will be required to achieve the satisfaction of that need.

Nympho's

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Nympho's

The concept of women, whose sexual appetite is beyond satisfaction is a fantasy, invented by men to explain their inability to bring a sex partner to orgasm and completion. Whenever, a woman's erotic mind is not engaged in sex, no completion will occur no matter how long or how many sex partners she might have. This explains gang bangs where women simply turn off or dis engage their erotic minds for sexual exercise something the kids call sport fucking. Unfortunately, far too many women have no idea where the switch lies to turn their erotic minds on, nor do their partners have any idea that there is such a need and a switch.

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The Nature of Erotic Energy

The human body is composed many parts and pieces, but among the most essential are the energy cells, fueled by the chemistry, that produce power and makes motion and thought possible. This energy cell, often in religious circles referred to as the spirit, is what dissipates upon death of the physical body. The energy that fuels our daily life, is at death, returned to the environment to seek other opportunities since the amount of energy in the universe is constant. Therefore, what was once a part of human energy, may migrate into any other living thing.

This energy, that fuels our physical and mental being can be used by and expressed by the human body in many forms. To the extent our available energy is not required for motion or thought, it is stored by the body until the body's power, demands its release. The sexes, generally release this excess energy in different ways, voluntarily or spontaneously without conscious thought. Bursts of anger, passion, the arts, sports , physical activity are some of the obvious ways excess energy is released.

This writer has long wondered about the difference between men and women as it relates to their susceptibility to depression, because the rate of depression in women is far greater than in men. I postulated that this was generally caused by a failure in women to release passion, a problem most men do not have. However, what i failed to take into account was that passion was but one of many forms of energy which could be dissipated in other ways.

Men for example, while not generally as passionate as women, still have the same amount of energy as women, yet they express it in so call macho ways. Men enjoy physical activities from sports to war, each of which permits the release of their pent up energy.

Woman on the other hand, tends to be less physically macho, and therefore have less of a tenancy to release as much excess energy as do men in their daily lives. Unless they are predisposed to male type physical release, they must seek other outlets for their excess energy. Erotic passion is but one, of the many ways excess energy can be released by women, but unfortunately, it is the only release available to most, yet few achieve that release as explained earlier in this blog.

Activities which are mind based, such as artistic design, playing music are other ways energy can be released. Physical sports such as running and swimming, aerobics etc, also provide a release of excess energy. Most have heard of the so called runners high, that is accomplished by the feeling of energy release.

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Men Fuck to cum, women fuck to Breath

It is interesting, how physiologically, men and women, generally without conscientious knowledge, approach sex, with totally different needs, which to them, appear the same.

Man, by his sheer simplicity, generally maintains a limited focus, cuming at any price, usually without regard for the need of his partner to achieve a similar climax.

Women are much more complicated creatures by nature but have learned to subvert their sexual needs to that of pleasing her male partner, even and usually at the expense of her erotic needs. Women have learned, when man asks "was the good for you honey, she must respond with yes dear, it was the best", even as her erotic needs are dieing inside, for to risk offending male superiority, is to lose the partner, be sexually called cold, and worse yet to be defined as a nympho, which is at best only a figment of mans imagination as a way to deal with women they can not satisfy.

The erotic needs of women run far deeper than even most women realize and are directly linked to their mental health. A healthy sex life, is a womans way of balancing her excess passion. Without a healthy sex life to balance their passion, women slip easily into depression as the passion seeks, like water, to find its own level. See discussions of the link between passion and depression else where on this site.

The link between sexual completion and passion is the single biggest difference between the sexes and the most important reason why woman can not permit their sex life to be less than satisfactory given the needs of their passion to be released.

Women have to be strong enough to explain to their partners, before sex, that there exists the possibility that the male climax alone may not give her the release she requires. Women, who have masterbated extensively, have also altered the recepters in their vigina such that the labia lips no longer provide the primary sexual stimulus they once did, and now digital stimulation of the clit becomes necessary for them to achieve erotic completion.

Women who have issues, arising from molestation, rape, incest abandonment, etc, generally, can not achieve sexual completion, until the circumstances of the abuse is resolved in her mind such that guilt is no longer a barrier to erotic completion. Once again, failure to share that information with her partner, guarantees sexual failure since the past will mentally block erotic pleasure and the woman will be considered as cold or uninstristed.

Therefore, it is imparative that women, freely share their needs and erotic history with their male and female partners before sex, and abandon any partner who is not inclined to consider their needs as important as that of the other partner. Any woman, who dares not find the way to erotic completion, will find depression becomes her best friend. Release the pentup passion, and watch the depression go away

Women liberation, extends to the bedroom, not just the board room.

Depression and Passion

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Depression Vs. Passion

Most women, at some point in their lives, will suffer bouts of depression from moderate to severe. There are many causes of depression, from chemical in balance, and abuse both physical and sexual, to an overall unhappy feeling about life in general. Often, one or more of these conditions will exist together at the same time.

Many of these women will function at a very high level when they are working, but when they come down frm that working high, depression sets in and becomes their best friend for the rest of the day. In an attempt to control the feeling of helplessness, bad habits often manifest themselves. These habits run the gamit of possibilities but usually include, random sex, over eating leading to obesity, drinking in excess, drugs or a combination of each of the above.

Most depression goes untreated, except for the serious cases where the woman can not function. Many women are embarrassed by their depression, seeking the way they feel as an imperfection of their character, and not a consequence of their past. The women treated, often they find the treatment worse than the depression. Generally, only those women whose depression is caused by a chemical in balance can benefit from drugs.

There appears to be a direct link between a woman's need and response to passion and her susceptibility to depression. Often sexuality inadequacy in the in ability to complete orgasm, or so called dark thoughts creating feelings of being abnormal, are the primary root causes of their depression. Abuse, untreated, and caused by a host of factors, can also be resolved by feeding the Passion

Therefore, if u cure the needs of and satisfy their passion, the depression will usually disappear. Unfortunately, feeding the passion while being a need, is almost always the more frightening choice for the woman. feeding the anger, alcohol, drugs, food and random sex, make so much easier choices.

Treatment, feed the passion, to kill the depression, all in simple happy strokes. Run to what you need, never to what u want. If you choose to feed your eroticism, give yourself what you need, no matter what others may have to say about your needs, and feed your sex, not from your body, but from your erotic mind. If u choose to deed your body (sport fucking) and ignore your mind, which controls 90% of your need for passion, nothing will change.

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Fear and Freedom

The existence of virtually all humanity is defined and limited by how they process, eliminate or control fear in their lives. Quality of life is defined by identifying and limiting or eliminating fear.

Unfortunately, fear is most peoples best friend. Many are consumed by fear, without having any idea from where the fear originated. There is no aspect of life, that fear does not control.

Therefore, maturity in large part, is spent identifying, limiting or eliminating fear. Much of fear comes from people who are supposed to love and care for children. Fear is a by product of abuse and chemical imbalance. Those who claim to love us, know of the reason for our fear, or recognize the fear in our eyes, yet do nothing to help set us free, pay lip service to love.

A real Dominate Slave relationship grants to the slave, an opportunity to release their fear in an envelope of trust and safety, but only to the extent, slave or dominate recognize the existance of the fear, identify the source of the fear and then eliminate the fear to the extent possible. Every piece of the mind that is dedicated to fear, holds hostage vast amount of pent up pleasure.

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The Concept of Limits

D/S relationships differ from vanilla relationships principally based upon the application of total trust, which is missing inn most vanilla relationships. Therefore, where trust lives, between Master and Slave, limits can not exist.

Now some might say, that is not possible, i do not like this or that, however, it is possible but only if the slaves identifies with a dominate in whom she can place her complete trust without fear. Any dominate who has the ability to gain the total trust of his slave, will also be gifted enough to understand the limits to which this slave can be led in the absence of all fear.

Fear and absolute trust, can not coexist together, and almost all the time, fear is the clear winner. However, in those rare cases, where trust lives, fear can not, therefore limits of any kind do not apply.

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The Trilogy of Domination

Most members of the human community are submissive in nature by operation of birth with each serving their chosen Master in their own, sometimes unidentifiable way. The three choices are Fear, God, and Human Dominant.

Fear is by far, the greatest Master, and, in and of itself, negates the opportunity to serve another, for to embrace fear presupposes one has the control required to mitigate the existence of fear. Therefore, he who chooses fear, limits their humanity and diminishes their life, while constraining the life of those around them by the limits of their fear.

God, is chosen by most, as their master, yet he who serves fear, can not by definition, serve god, since god is greater than fear, and true belief in god, should eliminate fear.

Human Dominant, while widely publicized, is rarely real, since this person, must be free of all fear, and not intimidated by the existence of the fear of religion. The Human Dominant, be they male or female, is a rare creature, sufficient unto themselves, has no need to call attention to themselves, and exists for the purpose of leadership to whom and for whom, it maybe required.

There are many people, both male and female who engage in great acts of strength and courage, accomplishment and success, but never associate outward success, with inner strength, for many of those same people are infected with a sense of fear beyond understanding.

To know know the difference between the true dominant and the apparent successful dominant, one must look into the content of their character and identify one simple trait. True dominants are unselfish, all others are self centered and therefore by definition, consumed by the fear others bring who surround them.

Rare is the human, who can walk in his or her own shadow, embracing all who come near, and fearing nothing along the way. If in the course of your existence, you meet such a human, follow him or her, where ever they may lead, for wherever they go, fear does not follow. If you go where fear does not follow, be your dominant or slave, you are free.

No one, who serves fear, can serve another, be they god or human, for fear is all consuming and commanding and defines and limits your existence to the diminutions fear defines. Fear however, ca not live in the face of desire or courage, so at the end of the day, fear is but an option, until u permit it to be your master.

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The Cougar Illusion

Modern day woman, in her attempt to charge a disappointing sex life, is turning her attention to seducing men, younger and in some cases, much younger than they are, in the hope that their youth will provide the sexual stamina to permit the woman to achieve orgasm and satisfaction which has otherwise eluded her when having sex with partners near her age.

We regret to say, this popular notion of better love from younger partners is a fallacy for the following reasons:
1. Timing
Men reach their sexual peak by age 25, women in their early 40's
2. Erotic pleasure
90% of erotic pleasure originates in the mind, not the body. therefore it is the size of the mind, not the size of the cock that is responsible for sexual satisfaction.
3. Need
Man tends to have a single erotic focus, penetration, while the needs of women are multifaceted and vary greatly from one women to the next.
4 Secrets
All women have dark secrets which men almost never have a clue exist for the simple reason women seldom openly admit these secrets, and man believes they "are the man" and can therefore satisfy all desire, in the same way, by mere penetration alone. Women believe on he other hand that the longer the sex the greater the satisfaction. In fact mostly that equals a sore pussy and a hungry mind.

Conclusion

Woman does not need physical penetration to achieve erotic pleasure, and physical penetration absent mental penetration, is an erotic illusion, which will fade into the sunset when the novelty of the younger man wears off, and the woman realizes, nothing has changed other than how other women look at her because of their desire to have what she has.

Solution

Find the partner, whose mind has the intellectual power to command your erotic mind to sexually yield and you will have something far better than any toy real or imaginary. Women bear great responsibility for the existence of this issue by their fear of disclosing to their partner, exactly what they need, and from this vacuum, man is left to conclude, physical stamina is all that is required.

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The Nature of Beauty

Beauty as they say, is in the mind of the beholder, but is that true for all or do we see beauty absolutely in more than one dimension. Each of the senses, visual, smell, taste, sound and touch, combined or separately usually identify attraction. In vanilla, visual attraction is the foundation on which attraction is most often, but not always based, specially by men. Women on the other hand find smell to the the most attractive component of their desired lover. What ever the attraction turns out to be it is usually primary to any other personal characteristic of an individual

Beauty or attraction, in a true Submission/Domination environment tends to be the inverse of Vanilla beauty because it is almost always the product of what can not be seen, but what can clearly be felt or expressed by the woman. Rather than the senses, forming the primary attraction, it is intrinsic qualities like passion, unselfish committment to giving, desire to submit to the pleasure of another that more closely defines beauty in a true submissive.

Oddly enough, many submissive women who have all the traits of submissive beauty, while fitting the Vanilla definition of beauty, do not see themselves as beautiful, seeking only to add pleasure to the life of another, rather than calling attention to a physical trait of themselves. Therefore, by definition, no woman can be a true Submissive who views their physical traits to be superior to their inner qualities for the simple reason that their area of concentration, is themselves, leaving little to share with others.

Can a Vanilla beauty become a Submissive beauty, yes, when desire to give, rises beyond the level of the desire to admire. However, a Submissive beauty, once so identified, will always remain a Submissive beauty, for the simple reason that beauty on the inside is intoxicating, almost like a drug high, that once attained, one will never ever relinquish.