Blow Job vs Sex, Which is the Winner and Why

How Oral & Anal Sex, A long Term Game Changer 

Sex, much like life, is constantly evolving to keep pace with our international jet age world, but are all the changes healthy or just a sign of the times. Historically, sex between two partners used to mean vaginal intercourse with occasional hand assistance to get the male partner ready. Oral sex was the exception, and seldom the rule between partners. Partners tended to stay partners and the concept of sport fucking was not yet a common term.

The 60's ushered in the beginning of a sexual revolution, the long term consequences of which no one could have ever imagined and which changed the sexual dynamic between sexual partners. Sex became entertainment as much as sex was formally used for procreation. As the world became a smaller place, and societies with conservative and liberal views of sex intermingled, fun was in the air. 

In so much as man,seldom understood the female sexual dynamic which was amplified by the mystery of the female orgasm,or lack thereof, man found pleasure in almost anything which would relieve his sexual need and therefore, he focused on a simple blow job to take his emotional edge away.   In the process on men's sexual liberation from intercourse, women discovered giving their partner a blow job was often the best of all worlds since the gift of a blow job did not involve an emotional attachment in the way conventional sex can attach an emotional commitment.

Just as blow jobs and oral sex became the preferred sex method of the sport sex generation, enter a brand new opportunity, anal sex. Anal sex for men was like a blow job on steroids and for women it gave the best of intercourse without the risk of pregnancy, or the risk of the kind or the depth of emotional attachment vaginal intercourse can bring. Anal sex, borrowed from man on man sex seemed to provide the perfect solution for both men and women to enjoy sexual play with limited emotional risk. Perhaps this new sexual dynamic is in part to blame for the drop in births in many western countries.

Of course, change always results in unanticipated consequences and in this case, there are many potential risks and changes which will challenge future generations. Removing woman's emotional investment from vaginal sex will have an unknown long term consequence on relationships as we know them today. Incest, a practice as old as is time, is likely to grow and flourish because anal sex removes the pregnancy risk which opens up an entirely new opportunity for inquiring minds and sexual predators worldwide.

Both sexes emerge as winners and losers in this sexual revolution. Men win because they never understood the role sex played in the female mind and women benefited by a reduction in the pregnancy risk to a manageable level. Women are winners because they can have male type relationships (perhaps an extension of women's liberation) minus the emotional attachment and the pregnancy risk. Both men and women risk the same loss of understanding the value of the sense of commitment and safety an emotional commitment brings. 

Women face an additional risk to some extent men do not, which is what to do with and how to release the passionate emotion which only a committed relationship has the potential to set free. Women can manage their emotional needs through aerobic exercise which begs the answer, why there are today women's only gyms, as one of the fastest growing parts of the exercise network. 

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The Things Women Lie About and Why

 

For as long as I remember, including as far back and my reading has taken me, women have been often accused of misrepresenting certain facts about their lives, usually their age, and their weight. I have always written that off to a from of female macho akin to man bravado about his physical powers and strength. 

Recently however, another really interesting misrepresentation has made it self known to me, one I must confess, i've known about for many years, just never filed it under the right category until today when a very young woman, assured me, she know all about sex, and all about having and enjoying orgasms.

It is possible, all she said was true, however, experience suggests, it is not, for the following reasons. An orgasm, is an erotic sight seeing trip to the fireworks show, sudden blindness, uncontrollable tears, total loss of all muscle control, squirting, defecation and simple loss of all conscientious thought for varying lengths of time. Any particular woman may experience one or more of these erotic fantasies per orgasm.

I have learned over the course of time, for a woman to enter the kingdom of orgasmic delight she must be absent of fear and have absolute trust in her partner, and there in lies the greatest problem to the successful orgasm. The number of women who suffer some form of abuse rape, bullying etc. is well over 60%, and it is these women who are usually the ones with the deepest passion and conversely the ones most likely to be afraid. 

What makes this even more interesting, is that males have no way of knowing, to what extent his female partner is sexually invested in their love making as long as she is lubricated, he is good to go. Once man experiences his release, he assumes, his partner is now in the same space he is in and usually, she does not bust his bubble. At some point, many women come to believe, that the vaginal muscular contractor they experience, is all there is. 

Bottom line, we have the blind leading the blind and one of the blind get constantly left out, even when she comes to believe she was not. Personally, ive never met a woman who had any idea how an orgasm occurs in the first place, or even how to make it deeper or longer. Second, ive met many women who tell  me they know what an orgasm was all about until they discovered they did not and experienced one for the very first time. 

Perhaps, i am a failure in choosing sex partners, but none of the women i have met over the course of my life had ever experienced an orgasm, until i took away their fear and instilled a sense of trust.

Why do Men

Prefer a

Blow Job 

As a person who was never a big fan of blow jobs i've often wondered why they were so favored by so many, both men and women.  There are of course, the obvious reasons, simple, quick, immediate and portability almost any where works.

Then there are the not so obvious reasons, male relief without the possibility of pregnancy (unless she tricked you of course), and the woman's ability to satisfy her partners erotic need without risking an emotional attachment which is always the risk a woman assumes with conventional sex.

However, I think i may have discovered the holy grail of blow jobs rational. Watching pictures and movies of male on male sex, one observation is generally always true. Male on male sex appears to be more mechanical, than male female sex, lacking in obvious emotion, tenderness or hugs and a sense of an emotional bond so common in male female sex. I am not suggesting there is no emotion bond in male to male sex, its just vastly different in how it is displayed during a sexual encounter.

Could it be, that mans emotional composition has little in common with woman's sense of passion and therefore is generally incapable of or in fear of any connection which might translate into an emotional connection. This gives new meaning to the old saying, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Women are generally happy to indulge mans oral needs as it for them is quick and does not subject their erotic mind to an unfulfilled erotic moment.

Generally, man is a selfish lover, only concerning himself with his pleasure and assuming once he has enjoyed his release, his partner by definition has enjoyed hers simply because he enjoyed his and it is her responsibility to please him, period.

I believe, the differences between how erotic emotion is expressed by different sexes defines the physical response but respects the erotic intellectual need to achieve erotic release.

 

 

The Soul of a Woman

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Many years ago, when i set out to try to understand the many facets of woman, never in my wildest imagination, did I ever dream of the many layers of life, I would need to peel back, one at a time, much like an onion, until at long last, what remained was something often dreamed about, frequently talked about, but almost never experienced or enjoyed, the Soul of a Woman.

Woman, is without a doubt, the most powerful yet misunderstood, and abused  animal, human or otherwise on the face of the earth,  who despite the obstacles placed in her path, continues to both excite and confuses men as they have so often pointed out, but is often so complex that they confuse each other, and themselves. 

Women, despite their inner strength and resolve, are no match for man's exterior strength and power. Each woman inner strength, however  is almost always the winner where ever the test is one of endurance, and not instant power. Women's intellect as recent data tends to reveal, is more than an equal match for that of men, and in most cases superior.

Having said that, however, women have a wild card that is the core of who they are and what they do. The value of that core however, is totally dependent upon how outside influence effects her core either in a positive or negative manner. The core, the center of woman's strength and power, is her inner strength that flows from what is commonly known as her passion. Raw naked, fearless passion, comprises and is the fundamental building block of the Soul of a Woman.

The combination or a woman's hormone levels, intellect and strength of character form the core of her Soul. How the dynamics of her Soul are displayed and implemented is a function of her ability to mitigate fear in all its many forms. Man in his wisdom, uses every idea, trick or device, to enhance the core fear of a woman, because he clearly understands the existence of fear, is the only thing which tilts the balance of power in his direction.

Women on the other hand have for centuries, fought back and often rebalanced the scale of fear, by only sharing with man, that which he wants, and almost never, that which he needs. It is an interesting dynamic, this sexual dance between fear and want. man and woman, and sadly a contest, no one really wins.