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Who Is the Best Lover, Men or Women

The answer to this question lies in understanding what is evidence of the best of sensuality and how can it be measured or observed. While both sexes are capable of similar erotic responses that is seldom the case. Lets examine each to determine the potential of both sexes. There are many misconceptions which impact male female relationships. 

Size is the most misunderstood part of human sexuality experience, for the simple reason that orgasms of both men and woman occur based upon sensual stimulation of the entire body and does not require penal insertion to achieve. Only the brain, can create total body stimulation sufficient to achieve orgasm. Therefore, Size of the male penis is not reverent to a woman sexual pleasure. 

In men fear of sex is rare, in a woman, its more often the rule than the exception as a consequence of one or more of the various kinds of abuse women suffer. The fear which arises from abuse, must be processed by her partner to her comfort zone. Words like frigid and nympho are code names for sexual abuse expressed through pain of sex or the inability to orgasm.

Finding a woman's comfort zone requires a commitment to want to eliminate her fear by establishing trust in her partner as her friend, and having her mind distinguish between the bad and the good guy. Once her comfort zone is achieved, her mind will be receptive to her partners erotic advances provided his movements are slow and deliberate  until it is clear, her mind is totally invested. 

In addition to abuse and rape, the mind of women is bombarded by fashion, childhood bullying, diet, body type, social norms and religion to constantly make her question who she is and if she is sane and frequently leads to depression. Oddly enough, an orgasm is the best medicine to reduce the impact of depression as an orgasm releases the stress and tension produced by excess and unused female hormone. This stress can also be impacted by regular aerobic exercise.

There are many women who are abuse survivors but have no memory of the abuse, only knowing something is wrong and that fear is always her orgasm. While she may never remember what happened, an understanding partner can often bring her emotional peace sufficient to achieve orgasm. 

All women experience sexual fantasies which vary only in type and intensity. These sexual fantasies to the extent they contravene social and religious norms weigh on the mind of all women. Women who discuss everything with their best friends seldom mention their fantasies thereby enforcing the idea that only she is impacted. Fear of fantasies must be a part of the comfort zone process is she is to achieve orgasm. Men on the other hand generally only have one fantasy.

There is one subject in which both men and women seem to agree which is breast size. Women look at the breasts of other women almost as much as does man. Man often chooses his sexual conquests based upon breast size first and  all else second. Women most often are influenced by smell first and thereafter fulfillment of a long standing mental image usually shaped by outside influences including fear, security and goals to name a few of the many. Women like men, seek their vision of their dream partner as they choose who they wish to get to know.

If man is successful in finding his ideal woman getting to know her to the extent of earning her trust, how then does he know, when the moment arrives that she is ready for sex. For her, knowing he is ready only requires her to look down, but how is man to know when she is ready. The answer lies in foreplay in whatever quantity and variety is required to ignite the erotic jets in her mind. There are many ways to determine this moment and all women are different so one size does not fit all. Notice may include any or all of the following, lubrication, increase in breathing, muscle movement, verbal suggestions to name a few. If the minds connect, the orgasms will come together or very close.

Recently, the world has discovered anal sex, and suddenly vaginal sex especially in the under 40 set appears to be running second place. What is interesting about anal sex is that despite the splinter muscle which controls the anal muscle being more sensitive than the vaginal muscles, few woman appear to enjoy anal because man as usual is in a hurry and plunges right in before her muscles get a chance to adjust which rather than creating pleasure, creates pain. So why do women put up with anal, simple, no risk of pregnancy.

So all things considered, the answer to the question is neither is better because man believes woman to be just like him ready at a moments notice and woman seek a partner, who understands what she needs without her having to tell why.