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PASSION

Passion is a gift, bestowed by the creator upon some of the created. Yet, unlike all other talents and gifts bestowed by the creator on the created, this gift no matter how excellently it is developed and practiced, is relegated to the recesses of the female mind, by acts of outrage, violence or benign neglect. Many different gifts are bestowed at birth, and almost all are well received. I.e. arts, intellect and sports. People who have these gifts are revered in their community and held up as heroes to both young and old alike. Passion in varying amounts is often a secondary of the primary gift within this talent pool and is generally seen as a positive addition to the given talent. I.e. She sings or paints with such passion. Passion, like any other gift is granted in different degrees in different people. In cases where the woman's prime gift is passion and no secondary gift is of any significance, she then constitutes a talent without an audience, for it is quickly evident that the expression of this gift is discouraged except by those who wish to prey upon her need to give. Why does society shun raw naked passion as a talent? Is it passions relationship to erotic sex, its need for sensual expression, its thirst for more, or its refusal to define gender? Might it be the inadequacy of the non-passionate people who, while jealous of the gift, seek to own and control those who possess it? Little girls who possess this gift are the most often abused because they cannot hide their need to give and there is always someone ready to use this to their disadvantage. When these little girls display their needs to one who does not desire to hurt them physically they are told that they are vulgar or nasty among other demeaning or humiliating adjectives. If she escapes abuse as a child she quickly learns to hide her true needs and tends to live in a false world. Often, she is given to believe that she is a freak of nature by friends, family and lovers. This makes her seek her inner self. In her effort to just fit in, she usually marries her opposite, the non-sexual, normal-appearing man who will reinforce her impression that she is not to be needed and drive her further into herself. Left to her thoughts, living in a passionless marriage, unhappy, and ashamed of herself and her feelings she often seeks the solace of destruction by any means necessary from drugs to excessive weight gain. The little girls who were physically abused as children learn quickly that their passion is not a gift but a curse to be hidden from public view. They often split their personalities into one or more parts to separate the good woman from the bad woman. This woman is often incapable of accepting real love because she equates the pain of abuse with the passion of love and no pain equals no passion. Split into many pieces she is left to let each part find their own way in the world, often with disastrous results. She is often the victim of additional abuse by powerless men who inflate their egos at the woman's expense. And all that needed to happen in this child's life was for a parent to recognize this gift and to help the child to understand it. The adult woman only needs a lover who will encourage her passion, not one who will place limits on her needs and desires. At some point in a woman's life, usually in her mid-forties, all women of passion come to the realization that life in this huge vacuum cannot continue and since they see themselves as damaged goods, they often turn to the control that d/s offers submissive women. Even here, the passionate woman is usually subjected to the same ostracizing as in vanilla life, and taught to be ashamed of her needs and wants. A Nymphomaniac, a term often used to describe a woman of great passion, is a myth since there is no such thing. The woman often called a nympho is one

who has never met the lover willing to accept and encourage her needs over his own. In her forties this woman has low or no self-esteem, does not like or love herself, is usually seriously overweight, is in a passionless or abusive relationship and equates abuse with love. To give this woman back to herself requires great time and effort since she may not understand that her passion is the cure. Since she has learned to hide it well, one must be willing to find it wherever she has hidden it from view. Her fears must be isolated and resolved. She must take control of her body and be willing to work on resolving issues that prevent her form finding pleasure in herself. Finally, she must find acceptance over all of her passion and needs with free expression and participation without fear or humiliation. Her mind must be freed to seek its own level. Passion in Conflict Passion and Religion: Women of great passion, whose passion has been conflicted or restrained by society, family or lovers, often find solace in other expressions and art forms. One of their other expressions is religion. For years we have wondered why the number of women in church so outnumbered the men, and the answer is to be found in the least likely place, between their warm thighs. Feeling a sense of rejection for their native erotic feelings and buying into the popular argument that the women who love passion are possessed in some way by evil, they often turn to the church. They turn to the church in much the same manner that they marry conservative men, hoping somehow that a religious experience will cleanse them of their erotic needs. The conflict that arises, in the mind of the passionate woman, between the thoughts of good and evil represents a powerful tug of war between the real need to experience eroticism and to experience spiritual salvation. For many women this is the end of the line, believing their needs, as an individual, must be so evil that spiritual relief is the only way. Women electing this choice, while noble, are essentially ending their life, condemning themselves to unthinkable frustration and unhappiness. The woman who cannot see through this conflict for what it truly is will also be doomed to a life of fear and uncertainty. While there is much support on the side of spirituality as the answer nothing is offered to her in support of her erotic needs. This, in my judgment, represents the worst of sexism. The inability to resolve this conflict will manifest itself in many other ways such as suicide, drugs, alcohol, and abuse at her hand or another whom she seeks for punishment. The lucky few see past this conflict as an extension of their passion not a conflict between good and evil. Religion is a spiritual need, much the same as passion, and as such does not have to represent a conflict or a war between the forces of good and evil. If in fact, God did make woman, then it follows that God made the entire woman, including her erotic passionate needs. Therefore, it follows that the only conflict between passion and religion lives within the minds of those for whom passion elicits emotions beyond their understanding and control. The argument framed by the supporters of women's liberation will never be won, until first, we free passion to exist without fear in much the same manner that the male ego has roamed the range and passion shall rule the bed. After all it is the woman's power which balances society and prevents it from the harsh reality of raw and naked physical power. Copywrited 9-1-2001 by bkdaddy4u