Why do Men

Prefer a

Blow Job 

As a person who was never a big fan of blow jobs i've often wondered why they were so favored by so many, both men and women.  There are of course, the obvious reasons, simple, quick, immediate and portability almost any where works.

Then there are the not so obvious reasons, male relief without the possibility of pregnancy (unless she tricked you of course), and the woman's ability to satisfy her partners erotic need without risking an emotional attachment which is always the risk a woman assumes with conventional sex.

However, I think i may have discovered the holy grail of blow jobs rational. Watching pictures and movies of male on male sex, one observation is generally always true. Male on male sex appears to be more mechanical, than male female sex, lacking in obvious emotion, tenderness or hugs and a sense of an emotional bond so common in male female sex. I am not suggesting there is no emotion bond in male to male sex, its just vastly different in how it is displayed during a sexual encounter.

Could it be, that mans emotional composition has little in common with woman's sense of passion and therefore is generally incapable of or in fear of any connection which might translate into an emotional connection. This gives new meaning to the old saying, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Women are generally happy to indulge mans oral needs as it for them is quick and does not subject their erotic mind to an unfulfilled erotic moment.

Generally, man is a selfish lover, only concerning himself with his pleasure and assuming once he has enjoyed his release, his partner by definition has enjoyed hers simply because he enjoyed his and it is her responsibility to please him, period.

I believe, the differences between how erotic emotion is expressed by different sexes defines the physical response but respects the erotic intellectual need to achieve erotic release.

 

 

The Soul of a Woman

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Many years ago, when i set out to try to understand the many facets of woman, never in my wildest imagination, did I ever dream of the many layers of life, I would need to peel back, one at a time, much like an onion, until at long last, what remained was something often dreamed about, frequently talked about, but almost never experienced or enjoyed, the Soul of a Woman.

Woman, is without a doubt, the most powerful yet misunderstood, and abused  animal, human or otherwise on the face of the earth,  who despite the obstacles placed in her path, continues to both excite and confuses men as they have so often pointed out, but is often so complex that they confuse each other, and themselves. 

Women, despite their inner strength and resolve, are no match for man's exterior strength and power. Each woman inner strength, however  is almost always the winner where ever the test is one of endurance, and not instant power. Women's intellect as recent data tends to reveal, is more than an equal match for that of men, and in most cases superior.

Having said that, however, women have a wild card that is the core of who they are and what they do. The value of that core however, is totally dependent upon how outside influence effects her core either in a positive or negative manner. The core, the center of woman's strength and power, is her inner strength that flows from what is commonly known as her passion. Raw naked, fearless passion, comprises and is the fundamental building block of the Soul of a Woman.

The combination or a woman's hormone levels, intellect and strength of character form the core of her Soul. How the dynamics of her Soul are displayed and implemented is a function of her ability to mitigate fear in all its many forms. Man in his wisdom, uses every idea, trick or device, to enhance the core fear of a woman, because he clearly understands the existence of fear, is the only thing which tilts the balance of power in his direction.

Women on the other hand have for centuries, fought back and often rebalanced the scale of fear, by only sharing with man, that which he wants, and almost never, that which he needs. It is an interesting dynamic, this sexual dance between fear and want. man and woman, and sadly a contest, no one really wins. 

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 Sexual Attraction How Does 

It Differ from Males

to Females

Erotically, any attempt to compare sexual attraction between men and women borders on the the impossible and more than any other single element of sexuality is solely responsible for sexual dysfunction between sex partners.

Erotically, sexual attraction is recognized and processed differently by men and women but the process after attraction is essentially managed by the mind in much the same fashion to orgasm, even though the outcome can be very different between partners.

First, lets think about the erotic process of man, for it is much easier to explain. Mans erotic attraction is rarely anything other than visual. Once his brain receives the visual signal from his eyes, the process of erection is easily achieved to orgasm by the increased blood flow to the penis and the resulting ripping apart of the muscles in the penis to create that feeling man loves so much.

The nice thing about man is he is easy to erotically manage since for most, a blow job or anything open and warm will generally bring him to orgasm. Unlike his female partner, man can not have an erection without being totally erotically stimulated in his mind. Consequently, there is never ever a question about mans mind body connection in sex. Unfortunately, the same can not be said for women.

Erotically, women are stimulated less by visual images and more by sensual stimulation. A recent study suggested the number one female stimulation was, smell. However, unlike her male counterpart, it is not easy to determine when and to what extent, women are sexually aroused, there being no undeniable final answer.

Yes their nipples may harden, breathing change or increase in lubrication in their genitals, but unlike men when it is all or nothing, women can be stimulated any where from 0 to 100% and her partner will never know unless she tells him, which of course, women always do :-)

Releasing 100% of her erotic energy means much more to a woman than to a man. to a man, its a magic moment and now he is ready to enjoy the next. To a woman, total erotic  completion requires her mind to be 100% invested in her sex partner, and to do that, risks control, something, most women are not willing to do if they can control the outcome, which is not always the case.

Sexual abuse impacts both sexes but effects each differently. men who have experienced sexual abuse will have great difficulty achieving or maintaining  an orgasm while women on the other hand will simply have the connectors between her senses and her vaginal, turned down or in many cases off, because she relives the abuse and fear over rides pleasure. This woman is often labeled as cold, but in most cases, buy the time the woman should have reached completion, her male partner is already finished and the resulting female orgasm is easy to fake.

Since studies suggest of 50% of all women will experience sexual abuse in their lifetime, and most remain silent or simply abuse themselves with pain, a substantial number of men, who have enjoyed sex with these women have always been the benefactor of a faked orgasm.

A for the women who have not experienced abuse the news is still not good for men because the risk between the partners is very different. If a man has an orgasm, it is generally easy to verify. Women on the other hand can experience an erotic feeling from 0-110% with the males having no idea now invested she is in the orgasmic process. 

A woman, who has no fear, and who is presented with an opportunity to complete the orgasmic process to 100% completion, must then decide if it is this time and this person to whom she wants to surrender her sexual control. From an woman's prospective, it is not and easy choice to make, and unless or until, she has irrefutable proof that this is the right choice, she will fake.

         

Toping from the Bottom, Power & Sex

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Religion Sex & Women

The Essence of Absolute Power

 

Women of the world are best defined by who and what they are not, rather than who they really are. They are taught from cradle to grave that each is alike in the same fashion as cookie cutters, yet we know there is no such thing as  normal where women are concerned. Each and every woman enjoys dark thoughts, yet almost none dare give light to their darkness for fear of being labeled an outcast witch or mentally deranged. Religion and society, have painted a picture of womanhood designed to serve a purpose of domination and control.

 

The picture of womanhood so artfully painted into the mind of each woman as they grow into womanhood defines a person who is made to believe in the inherit weakness of their sex, and cements a natural submissive mind into a weak and fearless person. How is woman to celebrate herself when all that defines her from cradle to grave causes great shame and fear, having to live a life that does not reflect who she really is inside.

 

The reality of womanhood, when all the layers of control are removed displays a person who enjoys a sense of intellect, strength of character, passion and giving, which  arises from their natural role of care givers to all. As a consequence woman lives a double life, one which society requires and one who she was born to be. Her sense of passion drives the erotic needs of women to a point women fear and society refuses to recognize. Therefore, woman has learned to hide and guard, her erotic passion as if it represented all the gold in Fort Knox, for failure to do so, is to lay bare her passion with a total lack of control.

 

Like men, women require a total erotic mind commitment to achieve a real orgasm, something almost no woman ever achieves, because surrender, defines her weak spot, releasing a tenderness she is powerless to control. Therefore, women have learned to give to men, only that which is necessary and not a single drop more.She has learned to use mans sense of power to her advantage by being the instrument of his pleasure by any means necessary without making or taking a substantial erotic risk of her own. Woman has learned that management of men's sex requirements are simple no matter the delivery method, and that man has no idea he is being used as her sexual pawn in a game in which she has limited erotic investment

 

Not submitting her erotic mind to her partner yields greater power for woman than man, in his best moments, can aspire too. Of course, this game women play can also be turned against them, if they are lucky enough to meet the person, male or female, who can pierce their protected inner core of passion and thereby take control of her mind. However, for most women, this is a fairy tale that never comes true. The amount of trust necessary to give rise to a total erotic release is more often than not compromised by abuse thus creating a sense of erotic trust beyond understanding or attainment.

 

Men, on the other hand, like to define themselves by their notion of power especially when it provides dominance over less power hungry men or women. Men believe the mind of woman, though strange from time to time, operates exactly as does theirs and has the same or similar erotic needs and desires as that which pleases man. In so much  as man is both one dimensional and self centered, he presents an easy target for woman to control, without making an erotic investment in either the man or the relationship.

 

Man is sexually disadvantaged in sex in so much as he requires a full erection to achieve orgasm, and to achieve that erection, requires his total erotic commitment without exception. Man hunts sex like a predator seeking erotic pleasure in any form that creates "his orgasm", without consideration of the erotic needs of his partner.  Man has no idea that his female partner is almost always faking her erotic pleasure, to please her partner and to retain control of her erotic emotions. Mans physical power is offset by his need to always be in pursuit of eroticism.

 

When you consider the balance of power between men and women, Strength vs Sex, the rational of eastern religious leaders does not sound so dumb speaking from the males prospective. for man to preserve his illusion of power, women must be tightly controlled, denied access to education, opportunities and association with people or intuitions who promote sexual freedom and opportunity.

 

A recent quote from a eastern religious leader "women must remain covered so as not to tempt the men into their sexual charms" flies in the face of reality. Restrain the women so as not to taint the morals of otherwise good religious men. Recent statements in the US from mega church leaders promote a similar concept that women are by nature inferior to man and should be available to man as man so pleases. Therefore, men are groomed to believe they are lord of all they survey, and use that sense of power to take what they want, without realizing as they take, they lose control of that which they believed was beneath them.

 

Part of the way women deal with their passion is to deny themselves, that which they need if favor of that which they want. Full filling wants does not risk emotional attachment, but full filling needs drives passion to the core of her being. To reach the core, one must pass trust, and that is a journey few men ever get to enjoy.

 

It is amusing to this writer, that while most women are treated involuntarily as property it is the slave, who at the end of the day, through the manipulation of mans need for sex and ego, expressed in his own sense of self, who can usually get what they want and or desire, However, nothing comes with out a price, and in the case of women, denial of a real orgasm, creates mental in balances between passion and need, that almost always express themselves sooner or later in addictive food, drink and or drugs on the path to depression.

 

Religion has been used as an enhancement to male power, but the question begs to be answered, does male power trump female power, especially when viewed in the light of the intellectual, and emotional edge women enjoy over men. It gives new meaning to the phrase  "Toping from the Bottom"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



 

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Why Beauty Is Not Always A

Girls Best Friend 

 Ever wonder why so many women who do not appear to be really attractive wind up with some of the best looking men, while those who are stunning beauties linger into their 30's alone. Many beautiful women depend solely on their beauty to attract men, and in many cases withhold their best personal gifts seeking only a man who is their equal in beauty. This is often, a case of the blind leading the blind.

 

Women who do not perceive themselves as beauties, resort to using their erotic skills in a way beautiful women never feel the need to do. These women have learned two simple tricks. Man is basically selfish and only cares about his pleasure, and two, over 80% of both males and females measure women solely by the size of their breasts.

 

Since most men are selfish, and or believe when given a blow job, the woman achieves orgasm as well, man is perfectly happy with anyone who attends to his cock as if it were a god. Blow him in the morning, and again at night, toss in a bit of missionary sex and you have a happy camper. This of course begs the question, what about the woman's pleasure. Those who orgasm from a flow job might be content, but those who do not, who knows, but they own their man.

 

Many women perceive male ownership at any cost their lifes goal.Large breast are a commodity adored by both sexes, achievable by nature, surgery or even excessive weight gain. Show a man big tits, no matter if they are hard as a rock and have zero feeling, and he becomes a happy little boy, nursing at his mothers breast. Throw in a blow job to compliment the big breasts and he will have died and gone to heaven.

 

In short, breasts and blow jobs are the way to the heart of most men, when beauty is not your best friend. Those women who are stuck up on their beauty, might have a thing or two to learn from their less fortunate female friends.  

 

 

 

 

 

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Is Girl Power Worth The Cost

Most studies of female sexuality have concluded that real orgasms in women are rare, even in female to female relationships for two reasons, Trust and Control. They have concluded that since most women fake their orgasms, therefore few men have any idea what a real orgasm looks or feels like, therefore making men believe they are the super stud with a faked orgasm . This is the secret power women have used for year, like a fighter, taking mans best erotic punch and walking away. Do men actually believe all women live to give him a blow job on demand of is delighted to let him orgasm on the face, body and clothes, actually, yes most do. Yet each and every time girl power takes all man has to offer, yet gives not from her store house of passion., she loses a little bit of herself. . We men are such simple minded creatures. 

It has worked so well for hundreds of years, why change it now. Excellent question, yet the answer is simple. Life today is compressed in units of time and with such complexity that what worked yesterday like newspapers, tube television, etc, is no longer relevant to this moment in time. While the changes in time has little it any effect on most men since sex seldom caused them to invest their free mind, it has catastrophic effects on the erotic mind of woman, filling her head with the pressure of unreleased passion with more arriving each and every morning that soon alcohol, drugs, food and anxiety become her best friends. A recent book, bad as it was, "Fifty Shades of Gray" , is a reflection of woman's search for more, a book that would have been banned a few short years ago, has been embraced by all levels of society. Women are looking for answers, The book, reversed the characters abuse and erotic needs to make the book more appealing to a broader audience.

One should not feel sorry for men because it is their selfish sexual attitude that helped to create this problem in the first place aided and abetted by their best friends, religion and power. Secondarily, the problem is also enhanced by who else, mother nature. In order for either sex to reach a true orgasm, their erotic mind must be totally engaged in their partner. In the case of a man, this engagement is easy to confirm because without it, there can be no erection. Now in the case of his female partner, there is no unassailable signal, the the mind is totally engaged in her partner. Given even her desire to engage, little things like sexual abuse, fear and trust keep clogging up the engagement pipeline, Finally, in the case of a woman, most believe if they were to permit a total release of their erotic passion, all control of the relationship would pass from her to him.

Now men on the other hand, once erect, naturally assume, their partner is as engaged as he is and plows straight ahead. What happens thereafter are different variations of sport fucking with the female in total control of the process because all the male wants is an orgasm, and the knowledge that he is a more superior sexual being than all other men on the universe, which the female is more than happy to provide, by producing what i like to call, an orgasm on demand. Since most men have never seen a real one, the fake one more than does the trick

Now in every confrontation, there is a risk and a reward. for women the risk is faking the orgasm because the erotic energy that would have been released never leaves her mind and body. Without that release anxiety and depression, become her best friends. Therefore, a delicate balance is created between the need to release erotic tension and the ability of a free mind to orgasm without total loss of control. 

Masturbation and exercise provides some relief for most women, but even in the privacy of her own space, and to the extent all the ghosts of yesterday, fear, abuse and control, still are alive and well in her mind, a total release is still not possible. Meantime, her male partner is a happy camper knowing he is king of her erotic world, hh ha, while she lies quietly in her bed, lost and alone even in his presence, for most men, make no effort to return in any wat to their partner the pleasure and release that was given to them.

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The Female Orgasm

Or Lack Thereof

Ever wonder why so many women admit they are never sexually satisfied not by verbal admission, but by seeking more and more sex partners and or gang bangs. Sexual relief is not achieved no matter how many partners they have,  how big the cock or how long they are fucked, the elusive "O" never seems to happen.  Yet they will tell their partners how great they were and god yes did i cum hard stud, u are the man. Many women have been faking orgasms for so long it has become an automatic reflex

There is a fear among many women to admit to themselves, their partners or husbands, that the big "O" simply did not happen for fear they will be branded as being frigid.  These women suffer in silence convinced they are the problem. Studies of human sexuality have suggested only 15-20% of all women ever achieve a real orgasm. This writer believes the real number is much lower.

Orgasms,  contrary to popular wisdom, in both men and women, do not depend on cock size, breast or ass size, color or the  physical body of the male or female partner. Orgasm's depend almost entirely on the degree in which the mind is sexually and erotically stimulated. Therefore, it is important that the stimulation of the woman comes before that of the male, which is just the reverse of how sex usually occurs.

Man, in order to obtain an erection, must have his mind stimulated to produce the same volume of blood flow to his cock as is the volume required for a woman to orgasm. Far too often, once the male erection is achieved, sex begins, without the female beings mentally stimulated to the same extent as her male partner. 

When the male reaches orgasm, minutes later, the female is just warming up, but for her, it is suddenly over. The males, seeking validation for his ego often will ask "honey, wasn't that great"  and she of course flatters the male ego and say's "yes" it was the best, wondering "really" in silence. 

Often she uses digital stimulation to get some pleasure as soon as her partner  goes to sleep or leaves the room. It is interesting to note, many males refuse to permit their partners to use toys of any kind after sex because the use of such toys offends the male sense of male ego

Big problem, simple solution. Women, insist that your male partners erotically and mentally stimulate your mind to the point that  you are lubricated and your clit is hard and sensitive in much the same fashion as the male cock, and then and only then turn your attention to the males stimulation. Any males, who demands to be first should cause you to demand they go home :-).